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    Sep 28, 2012, 04:04 PM
    Lesbian in love with me
    I'm 16 and I'm a totally straight girl. In class, I'm sitting just behind a lesbian. She's very beautiful and attractive. She already asked me overnight, and we have been texting many times all night long. Also, when she looks at me, I can see in her enormous blue eyes that there is something! One time while watching a movie in class, she asked me to come closer and said: " come, we can do many things here." and, being embarrassed and shy I said no. I'm not sure if she's in love with me and that's what I would like to know.

    Help me please, because Ireally don't know how to act, tks in advance!
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    Sep 28, 2012, 05:13 PM
    She may just be flirting making a pass at you. If it bothers you, tell her you don't swing that way and to stop. But you need to stop playing games too.
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    Sep 28, 2012, 07:11 PM
    She's very beautiful and attractive. She already asked me overnight, and we have been texting many times all night long
    Sounds to me that she knows what she likes, but you're confused. It sounds like you're attracted to her too and you're leading her on.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 02:14 AM
    Yes, if you are straight and have no interest in having sex with her, tell her. If you don't tell her, she thinks, she has a chance to get with you.

    If it not right for her to be pushy if she knows you are not interested, but it is worst, for you to lead her on, if there is no chance.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 05:07 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Yes, if you are straight and have no interest in having sex with her, tell her. If you don't tell her, she thinks, she has a chance to get with you.

    If it not right for her to be pushy if she knows you are not interested, but it is worst, for you to lead her on, if there is no chance.
    Well I don't know if she interested in me just because I played the game because I think I'm just in a mood where I need somebody and obviously I took the first one I saw and it was a girl... does this sounds logical?
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    Sep 29, 2012, 05:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    She may just be flirting making a pass at you. If it bothers you, tell her you don't swing that way and to stop. But you need to stop playing games too.
    I know what you mean but the fact that she is interested in me makes me act like that and play games.. does that makes bi curious or just in need of affection?
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    Sep 29, 2012, 05:15 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Sounds to me that she knows what she likes, but you're confused. It sounds like you're attracted to her too and you're leading her on.
    You're right she really knows what she wants but for myself, I'm totally confused because she is the only one that I can say is attractive I think its akward to say that of other girls but her, I don't know why its different
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    Sep 29, 2012, 11:50 AM
    You're obviously attracted to her, so yes, you're bi-curious. There's nothing wrong with that, other than your ages, and I really would stress that you not act on any attraction and take the next step at your age.

    Having said that, you admit that you're playing games with her, leading her on. Do you think that's fair since you don't know what you want? She knows who she is, and you're playing games with her. That's not cool.

    Be honest with her, and be honest with yourself.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 01:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    You're obviously attracted to her, so yes, you're bi-curious. There's nothing wrong with that, other than your ages, and I really would stress that you not act on any attraction and take the next step at your age.

    Having said that, you admit that you're playing games with her, leading her on. Do you think that's fair since you don't know what you want? She knows who she is, and you're playing games with her. That's not cool.

    Be honest with her, and be honest with yourself.
    But I can't help it from the very moment she starts starring at me, I do so, or when she texts me, I can't just ignore her. Also, every time she look, talk or text me, the way I reply always looks like I'm attracted to her but somehow as she is probably attracte to me, the chemistry that is between us 2 when there's any interaction is very akward and I feel like acting just as a simple friend is "undoable".
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    Sep 29, 2012, 01:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by basketball24 View Post
    But i can't help it from the very moment she starts starring at me, i do so, or when she texts me, I can't just ignore her. Also, everytime she look, talk or text me, the way i reply always looks like i'm attracted to her but somehow as she is probably attracte to me, the chemistry that is between us 2 when theres any interaction is very akward and i feel like acting just as a simple friend is "undoable".
    Have you ever said "I'm not gay, I'm not bi, I'm not interested in anything but friendship?"

    You yourself said you're playing games with her. She can't read your mind. She only knows what you do, and you play games.

    This isn't her fault. If you haven't told her how you feel, and you lead her on because you want to play games, then this is your fault. You need to talk to her. You can be friends, but you have to start being honest!
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    Sep 29, 2012, 01:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Have you ever said "I'm not gay, I'm not bi, I'm not interested in anything but friendship?"

    You yourself said you're playing games with her. She can't read your mind. She only knows what you do, and you play games.

    This isn't her fault. If you haven't told her how you feel, and you lead her on because you want to play games, then this is your fault. You need to talk to her. You can be friends, but you have to start being honest!
    I understand but I'm scared that she'll be deceived if I one day, without any reason I stop "playing" with her, and after that even if we talk about it don't you think it will ever after be akward between us?
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    Sep 29, 2012, 03:59 PM
    When she gets that way with you just say, "hey, I'm not into that" She may get mad but she'll get over it.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 04:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by basketball24 View Post
    I know what you mean but the fact that she is interested in me makes me act like that and play games.. does that makes bi curious or just in need of affection??
    You are curious, but you need to stop playing games with her. You are leading her on and that's not right.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 09:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by basketball24 View Post
    I understand but i'm scared that she'll be deceived if i one day, without any reason i stop "playing" with her, and after that even if we talk about it dont you think it will ever after be akward between us?
    You created this situation, and you have to put a stop to it. It's not fair to her that you continue to lead her on, when you're not interested.

    Yes, she may be mad, she may not want to continue the friendship, that's her decision, and her right. Next time you'll know not to play with people's feelings. It hurts, it's not nice, and it's not fair.

    You can't play with people's hearts and feelings and think it's okay. She deserves to know the truth, and you deserve whatever she does about it. If she doesn't want the friendship any more, then so be it.

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