[foiyo]

Well I know she doesn't really have a date to homecoming. She's going with her gay friend (not being offensive) which is kind of a date but not in the way I want to go with her. She broke up with me because she said she lost her feelings for me because she was gone a lot this summer. I really do love her with all of my heart and I know she probably never really did love me at least in the way I did to her but at this point, I'd do so many things to get her back. Me and my ex are still friends and I sat with her at lunch today because I didn't really know anyone else in that lunch since the one person I did know switched out of it. It was a little awkward at first since we haven't had a full conversation in person since we were together, but eventually everyone else but me and her at the table left to do a project and we talked just like how we did when we first met.

Now I tried to move on by talking to this one girl and I feel like I could move on, but I got in a fight and I'm pretty sure she's disappointed in me and now she looks at me weirdly. That wasn't like me at all either and my ex does know that.

Now should I ask her to homecoming or to hang out sometime? I already asked her once 4 weeks ago and she said yes at first but just as friends but changed her mind the next day pretty much. No one else knows that I like her because for awhile I thought I had moved on but I finally realized I haven't at all. Even she thinks I moved on now. I mean the main reason I want to ask her is just to know what will happen because I don't want to look back and regret not asking her.

So should I ask her or not?

[Homegirl 50]

No, you should not ask her.
Move on.

[foiyo]

I've been trying my absolute hardest to move on and everything I've been trying hasn't worked at all. It's like I just can't do it no matter what I've tried... She's always on my mind and when she's not I end up thinking oh she hasn't been on my mind for awhile and then she's back on it just like that and I can't stop thinking about her when she is on my mind... Any advice to help me move on?

[Wondergirl]

Think about white bears.

[Homegirl 50]

Do you have friends? Hang out, study, this is something you have to want to do.

[foiyo]

Yeah I hang out with them all the time, but honestly they really aren't the kind of crowd I probably should be hanging out with, but there is no one that really is similar to me at my school anymore. I do really want to move on and have wanted to move on for awhile now as I just hate feeling like this. It seems like I don't have that much motivation to do anything anymore either

[Homegirl 50]

You don't want to continue feeling this way do you? Set some goals. Get a new set of friends, decide to raise your GPA.

[foiyo]

The problem with me getting new friends is I'm so bad with meeting new people and just meeting any new people without sitting next to someone or something like that just makes me feel so very uncomfortable and I'm just really awkward with meeting new people too. I guess I can try to raise my GPA but I've never been motivated to try in school. I think I might do wrestling when that season starts though.

One more thing, I really do hate being single right now because I guess I just really like the feeling of caring about someone a whole lot and someone caring about me that much.This partly could be because this girl was pretty much my first real girlfriend. Any advice to help me get past that all?

[Homegirl 50]

She was your first girl friend and just as she came a long, another will.
You can spend your time concentrating on your grades. As they improve, you will become more confident and you will even become exposed to different people.
This girl was like a crutch to you. It is time to walk on your own again.

[foiyo]

Okay thanks for the advice. I mean I guess grades were never to big of a problem because I wouldn't try at all in school and never do homework, but somehow maintain A's, B's, and C's so I think I'll actually try for all A's now!

[Homegirl 50]

Good. You'll be surprised how many doors that will open and it will take your mind off your situation.

[ArmstrongMiller]

Move forward. Don't Be reluctant to leave the past! You may have a better future. Best wishes.