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    Sep 25, 2012, 05:38 AM
    In love with my friend's sister
    I think I am in love with my friend's sis, but she is 10 years younger than me and in 6th Grade

    I have a job in different city and use to visit my hometown thrice a month for 2-2 days and in that I use to meet my friend and often stay at their house.

    What should I do, do I need to wait until she gets to a marriage age and then go formally for proposal?
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    Sep 25, 2012, 05:47 AM
    So she is 11 and you are 22?

    What do you do? Get psychiatric help as this is not normal behavior for someone your age.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 05:52 AM
    That's just plain sick... this is a child... find someone that's actually not a child right now. THere are plenty of them out there.

    I bet YOU would be proud if this was YOUR 11 year old daughter and some other 22 year old pervert was lusting after her.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:46 AM
    Oh my god, I can't believe I read that post! I hope the eleven year old was not leading him on, and it came to this. Sometimes the games these eleven-year-olds going on twenty are quite dangerous.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:49 AM
    I'm smelling a troll.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 02:20 PM
    I have a daughter not much younger than the one you're pursuing. I can tell you what would happen if a 22 year old came to my home asking for my 11 year olds hand in marriage. I'd get out my shotgun and dig a hole in the backyard.

    Stay away from this child. Do you know what a pedophile is? It's sick that you're looking at this child in a sexual way.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 05:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Zwinky View Post
    I think i am in love with my friend's sis, but she is 10 years younger than me and in 6th Grade

    I have a job in different city and use to visit my hometown thrice a month for 2-2 days and in that i use to meet my friend and often stay at their house.

    What should i do, do i need to wait untill she gets to a marraige age and then go formally for proposal??

    No, I'd ask her father now. As long as you're staying "2-2 days" (whatever that means) in his house I think he has the right to know that you are in love with his sixth grade daughter.

    Otherwise staying in his house is totally inappropriate, no matter what the culture is (assuming this is not in the US).

    I'm guessing you have problems meeting, dating, getting a second date with women your own age and are more comfortable with children?
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    Sep 25, 2012, 05:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    No, I'd ask her father now. As long as you're staying "2-2 days" (whatever that means) in his house I think he has the right to know that you are in love with his sixth grade daughter.

    Otherwise staying in his house is totally inappropriate, no matter what the culture is (assuming this is not in the US).

    I'm guessing you have problems meeting, dating, getting a second date with women your own age and are more comfortable with children?
    Good point.

    On a side note, I don't care about culture. I respect others rights to believe what they believe, but when it comes to child molestation, I won't bow down to beliefs. I don't know of any God that would say it's okay to molest a child, and that's what this 11 year old is, a child.

    Talk to the father. Hopefully he's like me, and doesn't want a pedophile around his 11 year old daughter. A deep hole in the backyard, and I doubt that anyone will miss you.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Good point.

    On a side note, I don't care about culture. I respect others rights to believe what they believe, but when it comes to child molestation, I won't bow down to beliefs. I don't know of any God that would say it's okay to molest a child, and that's what this 11 year old is, a child.

    Talk to the father. Hopefully he's like me, and doesn't want a pedophile around his 11 year old daughter. A deep hole in the backyard, and I doubt that anyone will miss you.

    And that is why it's totally appropriate for OP to have a frank man-to-man talk with the father. Let the father decide whether he wants OP under his roof 2-2 (?).

    Personally I would not want OP having an influence over my daughter but that's just me - my guess? OP has problems finding a woman/girl his own age.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    And that is why it's totally appropriate for OP to have a frank man-to-man talk with the father. Let the father decide whether or not he wants OP under his roof 2-2 (?).

    Personally I would not want OP having an influence over my daughter but that's just me - my guess? OP has problems finding a woman/girl his own age.
    My guess is more sinister. The OP sounds like a pedophile. I don't care how amazing the child is, or what religious belief or culture you belong to, a 22 year old wanting to marry an 11 year old is wrong, and criminal.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    My guess is more sinister. The OP sounds like a pedophile. I don't care how amazing the child is, or what religious belief or culture you belong to, a 22 year old wanting to marry an 11 year old is wrong, and criminal.
    In parts of Italy they will still quietly kill you and bury you... without even informing the police or anyone... for doing far less, you simply disappear. And the OP is in a far more lawless part of the world.
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    Sep 25, 2012, 06:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Zwinky View Post
    I think i am in love with my friend's sis, but she is 10 years younger than me and in 6th Grade

    I have a job in different city and use to visit my hometown thrice a month for 2-2 days and in that i use to meet my friend and often stay at their house.

    What should i do, do i need to wait untill she gets to a marraige age and then go formally for proposal??
    You need to get some help. This is sick. She is a child. Are you not into women your age?
    Another thing you need to do is stop staying at that house. You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

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