[john82]

We were class mates, never the of best friends. I was always scared to talk to her. After high school we went to different schools, did not meet for five years.

Then we met again. It was mostly me who wanted to spend time with her and she would call back sometimes. This went on for 4 months when I told her I love her. She said not now and she was gone. I tried to meet her but she looked so troubled to see me I had to leave her alone.

After all this time all I do is miss her. I don't know whether she likes me or not. I don't know where she is. What do I do?

[talaniman]

Sorry guy but she doesn't like you and its time to get past it and move on with your life.

[teacherjenn4]

Move on. If she wanted to be with you or in contact with you, then she would be.

[john82]

Thanks
It is hard to move on I think of her every time kind of like may be I don't want to

[joypulv]

She looked troubled because she knew that she doesn't love you and that it would be in your best interest to break all contact with you. That's how it's done.

[xzylxzyl]

You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as much as you do her. To keep spending emotional/mental time on her is a waste of your time. What did you do in the five years you were apart? Go back to doing that.

[john82]

I kind of did nothing
Just went with the flow things those were most easy and I could always think of her

[teacherjenn4]

i kind of did nothing
just went with the flow things those were most easy and i could always think of her

Why are you wasting your life waiting for her? Get out and do something with your life.

[xzylxzyl]

Then it is time for you to change. Thinking about a girl for 5 years without being with her was just a waste of time. You meet up with her and have another chance and still nothing happens. Like others have said, if she wanted to be with you, she would. Do not waste any more energy thinking of her. If you cared half as much about yourself as you do her, you would get out there and start meeting other girls to befriend. Eventually a girl will come along that will make you forget all about this girl. Believe me, it will take you a split second to forget her, as the only relationship you've had with her is in your mind. It's never been real.

[Fr_Chuck]

You don't want to admit it, but she never really felt anything, She never was a girlfriend, she was just someone you knew.

You thought more of this than there was.

It can't be over, since it never was.

She is not going to come to you, she does not want you.

If you can't get over it, please get mental health counseling, since you appear to have trouble understanding reality about this.

[john82]

She was not my girlfriend I know that last time I tried to move things forward I lost a good friend may be moving on now will loose me any hope of ever having her around

[john82]

We did went out sometimes may be ten odd times coffee after work lunch she never said she loved me

[john82]

Why are you wasting your life waiting for her? Get out and do something with your life.

It is her I think of whenever I am in trouble when nothing is working out how do I change that

[xzylxzyl]

We are missing something here. What is it about you that you cannot see any possibility other than this girl? I'm a man and even though I am in a relationship, I can still see beauty in other women. You obviously have an insecurity about yourself. Are you afraid to approach women? Maybe you don't know how to talk to them? Are you unattractive? Have you ever had a girlfriend? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but trust me, there is something wrong with your thinking. You cannot have a girlfriend until you feel good about yourself.

[teacherjenn4]

it is her i think of whenever i am in trouble when nothing is working out how do i change that

Get out. Meet new people. Do volunteer work. If you can't get over her, get some counseling. You can't get the five years you've wasted back, so make a new life and live it. If you help others by doing volunteer work, you will feel much better about yourself.

[john82]

We are missing something here. What is it about you that you cannot see any possibility other than this girl? I'm a man and even though I am in a relationship, I can still see beauty in other women. You obviously have an insecurity about yourself. Are you afraid to approach women? Maybe you don't know how to talk to them? Are you unattractive? Have you ever had a girlfriend? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but trust me, there is something wrong with your thinking. You cannot have a girlfriend until you feel good about yourself.

It took me ten odd years to ask her out so I am slow but going out with girl I don't love a bit odd

[xzylxzyl]

I agree with teacherjenn4. There is no better way to heal yourself than by helping others. It will give you a sense of purpose and of self worth. And you will meet good people along the way. You'll soon forget about this girl.

[john82]

I do have a good life loving family friends work everything just fine just that she is not around

[talaniman]

You don't have to be in love to go out and have fun with ALL the females. Stop looking for love and have a great time making friends and getting to know them.

[xzylxzyl]

it took me ten odd years to ask her out so i am slow but going out with girl i dont love a bit odd

You should not have a goal of falling in love just from dating. When you go out with a woman, concentrate on having a good time. Do not tell any woman that you love her just because you want to be in a relationship. In my opinion, a relationship is the last thing you need right now.