[Liz81]

So my ex and I dated for 8 months and everything was great until one day I told him I was falling in love with him and then 4 days later he broke up with me. He said it was because he didn't have time to be a good boyfriend, which granted he was working 70 hours a week but we still saw each other a couple times out of the week. But he said he didn't have time to be a good boyfriend and that with his life the way it was he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. It was like one day he wanted to be with me and the next he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. Im the 3rd girl he's dated and the 2 before both cheated on him big time. Ive tried talking to him to see how he really feels about everything but he just won't open up and has completely cut me off. We had a really good relationship and I don't understand what went wrong or how to get him back. Please help on how to get him back! :'[

[nikkisweet2323]

Listen
He just needs some time
.its obvious he was hurt before.. and he works alotttt.I think he's thinking the last thing he needs to feel after working 70hours a week is for his girl to maybe complicate things and throw the word love in the mix.. which could have scared him off.. not because he doesn't care but maybe just not wanting to get hurt.. it seriouslymaybe he just didn't want something too serious right now.. and doesn't want to hurt you.. by leading you on after you said those words to him.. im just being realistic... listen.. just give him some time.. I'm sure he will miss u.. but let him realize that on his own.. missing and not seeing someone will only make the heart grow gander... just give it time... he needs it... let him think... keep us posted..

Btw... pain obviously something we all feel at times.. it will soon go away..
It would only be his loss.. if anything

[Liz81]

Thanks for your answer, I really appreciate it. Im very impatient because I do miss him a lot. He is also a skate boarder and he says he just needs to grow up and be ready to be a real boyfriend, but he was already a good boyfriend. It's almost been 2 months and he hasn't tried contacting me on his own at all. Ive thought about going to the skate park one day and just talking to him and showing him that I don't hate him or resent him for anything and just act normal and like the girl I know he cares about but I don't want to smother him either or to make him think I'm crazy and can't leave him alone. I know the waiting game is my best bet but I don't want him to forget about me :( I just really feel like we should be together and sometimes I'm soooo tempted to text and tell him I didn't mean to scare him off or anything but I feel like I'm going to keep bothering him. I just need to know if I should move on or wait for him

[Chances234]

Liz, has anything changed for you? I agree with the others, give it time. It's been 3 months since me and my ex broke up and for the first 2 months, he didn't call, text or anything except to ask me when I wanted to come get my stuff from his place, etc. But every time I tried to arrange to get it, he'd postpone it. We were together for 21/2 years and he just suddenly stopped communicating with me and cut everything off. I don't know how they do that. He was so cold. So, I left him alone. Then during the 3rd month of no contact, I noticed a change in him, the tone of his texts about getting my stuff got softer. Now, he's saying 'sorry to bother you'. When we finally met up, I looked great. Complete new look, then he started texting me after our meeting, even asking if I thought it was a mistake to break up. I put my feelings out there, so it's now up to him. It's been over a week since he last texted, and I'm not losing sleep over it. What shall be shall be.

[Liz81]

Im glad things seem to be turning around for you! But sadly no nothing has changed. Ive done everything everyone told me no to do and I contacted him wanting just a simple explanation and pretty much put my feelings out there for him. I told him I still loved him and that I just wanted him to give it a 2nd try and all he said was "i dont want to be in a relationship right now.Im sorry." I even took him his stuff he told me I could keep back to him and he talked to me for about 20 minuets about everything he'd been up to so it seemed like he does miss me but not enough to want me back. So I've let go and I'm moving on. It still sucks a lot and I want nothing more than for him to come back but I can't keep doing this to myself. So I'm leaving him alone until he decides to come back if he does decide too. All I can do is focus on me and let things be.