[Conversation12]

Hello all

I have been seeking help on this website for a bit now. There are many people in same situation but after reading all the answers, I wanted to post my question!

I am married to this wonderful man. We had an affair for 4 years and been married for 4. We both were from very reserved culture and I didn't know any better back then because I was always busy studying and working. Now that I have started seeing more life, more people I want to live my life a little differently... My husband is very supportive man also paid for some of my education. I work long long hours (not anymore because I have to spend time with my boyfriend) and he was always very supportive and nice. We are financially very stable and have very good lives.

But then again he is still a little conservative! I met this boy through work and slowly started to fall for him. He always knew I was married and didn't cross his line. I shoved myself on him and didn't leave him any choice! He is very caring and nice man. Not very stable financially because he just started a good job. HE LOVES ME VERY MUCH TOO AND HAVE INTRODUCED ME TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS! I feel very much like me when I am with him.

I really am living two separate lives with 2 different set of friends, closet, houses etc etc... I travel for work a lot so it is not a problem! I know my husband will be very hurt but in the end I think I am one of those who just cannot stick!

I have lost all my shame and I flirt a lot, drink heavily and want to pull myself as a hot chick in front of everyone.

I don't know what is the appropriate way to tell my husband that I am not a family material at all. He wants kids soon but I don't see myself in a family at all.

Should I just go and say I am a *****?? Or what??

[teacherjenn4]

Your husband cheated in his first marriage. You crossed the line having an affair with a married man. You are now cheating on your husband. Your boyfriend is doing what you did years ago. So, you'll leave your husband and marry this guy? Once a cheater, always a cheater. None of you will ever be able to trust each other. Don't bring any children into any of your lives. They shouldn't have to suffer because all of you are lacking in morals.

[talaniman]

Naw just tell him you are a lying cheater, and let him worry about what he does about it. See how easy that is?

[shweta123]

Ask yourself what you want and choose between the two.