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telly9 · Sep 17, 2012, 01:13 PM

I was friends with a girl for a few years, more so a socialising friend, we'd meet on nights out etc.

6 weeks ago she kissed me, we were kissing each other anytime we met up after that, I had her friends approach me and tell me she really likes me, and talks about me all the time etc. She'd send me lovely texts etc and we just got on really really well. We text all day every day and night, went out together every weekend.

So I started to get feelings for her and confided in friends and mutual friends who all said I should tell her as she clearly felt the same way from how she talked about me and how we were together. I told her I ''liked'' her. She said I like you too babe but I'm seeing someone so I don't want to string you along. I asked how long and she said two weeks and she didn't want to say anything because she didn't know how serious it was but now they want to make it official and she's sorry.

I don't know when she's even had time to meet this other person because anytime she's been out, I've been there or mutual friends who'd have told me.

I know it was only 6 weeks of kissing someone but we really got on so well and I had genuine feelings for her too. I feel awful now and like an absolute fool.

Any advice? Or can anyone give me any ideas as to the workings of this girl's mind?

I literally feel sick because of it all. I miss her so much and miss talking to her and feel very very confused. Was I just played?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 17, 2012, 04:02 PM

She was experiment dating. Dating you and someone else, maybe two someone else. She found someone she wanted to connect with. That is what dating is. (unless you are exclusive and your weren't)
Forget her and d move on.

telly9 · Sep 18, 2012, 10:58 AM

That I started to fall for her. I think because we were friends before I didn't expect her to do the experiment dating thing :-/

joypulv · Sep 18, 2012, 11:18 AM

Most of us are fools for love, just like all the songs. It's embarrassing but only to you, not to anyone else. She might have met this guy once, felt a spark, gone out on 1 or 2 dates, and that's why you knew nothing about it. In fact, it's possible that the 'spark' is just that, and they don't know each other at all, and will soon find out that they have certain very huge differences. You don't know, no one does... but tell your friends to keep you busy while you are suffering, and wait for it all to slowly fade away with time. Who knows, she may be back.

telly9 · Sep 18, 2012, 03:04 PM

Originally Posted by joypulv

Most of us are fools for love, just like all the songs. It's embarrassing but only to you, not to anyone else. She might have met this guy once, felt a spark, gone out on 1 or 2 dates, and that's why you knew nothing about it. In fact, it's possible that the 'spark' is just that, and they don't know each other at all, and will soon find out that they have certain very huge differences. You don't know, no one does... but tell your friends to keep you busy while you are suffering, and wait for it all to slowly fade away with time. Who knows, she may be back.

Ah it's hard but it'll be OK I suppose, it's horrible to be crazy about someone and have them be to cold to you. We live and learn though don't we? :-)

Homegirl 50 · Sep 18, 2012, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by telly9

that i started to fall for her. I think because we were friends before I didn't expect her to do the experiment dating thing :-/

Did you think she was dating you exclusively? Maybe she should have told you she wasn't.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 18, 2012, 07:24 PM

Why do people think they should only date one person, and expect it without talking about it.

When you first start dating, even first few months, I would always advise to date 4 or 5 people,

telly9 · Sep 19, 2012, 03:14 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Did you think she was dating you exclusively? Maybe she should have told you she wasn't.

Yeah I did. I wasasked to be with a couple of other people during that time and said no because of her and I just thought she was the same. Obviously I was wrong but it's just really hurt me. I'll just have to get over it though. These things happen.

telly9 · Sep 19, 2012, 03:16 AM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Why do people think they should only date one person, and expect it without talking about it.

When you first start dating, even first few months, I would always advise to date 4 or 5 people,

Well I won't make this mistake in the future anyway. It's just the first time this has ever happened and I thought that since we were friends for years before all of this that she'd have been a little bit more honest about things with me, more open about where I stood with her.

Homegirl 50 · Sep 19, 2012, 04:43 AM

Originally Posted by telly9

Well I won't make this mistake in the future anyway. It's just the first time this has ever happened and I thought that since we were friends for years before all of this that she'd have been a little bit more honest about things with me, more open about where i stood with her.

You should have asked her. You don't assume. I guess you never discussed dating with her.

telly9 · Sep 19, 2012, 05:41 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You should have asked her. You don't assume. I guess you never discussed dating with her.

Nope, never. I spoke to her today via text and she said she'd kissed this person once and told them about me, but she said she didn't know where we stood and was too shy to ask, then she kissed this other person again and wanted to tell me but didn't have the courage then I'd told her I liked her so she said she just had to tell me. She said she's sorry this happened and she did/does like me and she only ever kissed this person twice during the time me and her were kissing each other and she said she still loves me.

My head is all over the place. I think it was better when we weren't talking because talking to her is making me like her even more and now I'm thinking what might have happened if I'd said something before she met this other person.

Wouldn't it be amazing to have an on and off switch for your feelings :'(

Homegirl 50 · Sep 19, 2012, 12:09 PM

She doesn't know what she wants and is stringing you along. Keeping you around in case the other doesn't work.
Leave the girl alone.

telly9 · Sep 19, 2012, 03:02 PM

I was talking to a friend about this and she said pretty much the same thing really. We're both girls, I never mentioned that before. My friend things it's a fear thing with her. Who knows. I don't want to know anymore though, I'll never figure it out. You live and lean don't you.

Thanks for the words OK :)