[den10002455]

Hi susan, I'm a 24 year old male who has never really been in a long term relationship before, I've been with a fair share of woman but never really found what I was looking for.
10 months ago I started dating a girl and casually got to know each other. I found out that she was going travelling for nine months around the world... 7 months from when we first met.
I thought it would be cool to carry on dating her as she seemed a real good laugh and someone I could relate to, even though she was travelling the world in 7 months.
Anyway we got closer and closer through these 7 months seeing each other every day and fell in love with one another.
In the last month before we she left I kept saying to myself that we had 2 split up because she was going away, by this time she was getting very emotional and convinced me it was worth giving our relationship a go even though she was going away, with me possibly meeting her in australia 4 months into her travelling.
So we both agreed to this, for the first month of her travelling she emailed every day with me returning the favour and for me everything was cool.
Then one day she decided that it was to hard and both agreed to split and that maybe when she returned we could see what happens. but she wanted to definitely keep in contact so I we agreed to both email now and again.
Since then 2 months down the line, I've emailed 3 times and have had no reply, nothing to in your face just asking how she doing> but no reply.
Am gutted as I feel as I've lost not only a girlfreind but a friend 2 and I really thought that maybe when she returned there could be a chance of us getting back together, but I feel that will never happen now as she seems to not want any part of my life even as friend. Which is such a contrast when we were together as both were great together and seemed like we loved each other so much at the time I really did feel she was the one for me and still do.
Her last words were 'if I was still at home with you I'd be the happiest girl in the world'. Which doesn't help me at all, just makes me still clinging to her as the worst part is the only reason we broke up was because she went travelling. At least with a valid reason I could get in with my life, but knowing she still loves me really hurts.
I understand she may have met someone else, but the reality is she will be home in 6 months and don't want to ignore the girl as I still love her so much, but feel as though I'll have to as she seems to have forgotton me already.(guess I just can't understand why she completely ignores me now after being so close, even for the fist 2 months of her travelling)
Have I been sucked in too much believing all her promises?
Any advice on how to get over her would be helpful?
Am I being naïve as my first real love?
Any help would be much appreciated

[Jiser]

She may just be busy with her time there and hasn't had time to go to a web café. It does not mean my friend that she has forgotten you - perhaps she has met someone else (but she is having fun and finding herself, that is the point of traveling - fun and life experience)

My friend went traveling to Australia for a year and eventually him and his first love split after over a year because of the distance. They don't speak now. He came back the same person as he did when he left. She will be back and there will probably be a chance for you to get together and chat. Don't become to pushy with her, it may be when she returns she won't want anything.

In the mean time, concentrate on yourself and your life. Keep yourself busy in your hobbies + friends etc. Before you know it she will be back, for good or worse. But if you make something else your passion it won't seem so bad if its for the worse. Good luck, let us know what happens.

[chuff]

I think if you look at this from her point of view the situation allowed her to get a boyfriend for a couple months then leave for her travels. I don't think she was ever serious about the relationship and I think you probably assumed more about it because you were new to this sort of thing. As far as what she said, you have to realize that women make all kinds of statements but it's their actions that determine if they mean it.

[den10002455]

I think if you look at this from her point of view the situation allowed her to get a boyfriend for a couple months then leave for her travels. I don't think she was ever serious about the relationship and I think you probably assumed more about it because you were new to this sort of thing. As far as what she said, you have to realize that women make all kinds of statements but it's their actions that determine if they mean it.

thanks for advice man. Think tou may be rite about her using me a bit. Just wanted your advice as she emailed,
first time in a month(month ago was last time I sent her email asking how she was doing)
any advice as in if to reply or not? I'll copy and paste the email she sent...
hey
cant find you email from other day but net been expensive here so just a quick one1!
you'll love thailand1! Its amazing the islands are sooooooo cool!! Kotao was my fave and I'm now a diver! Was wicked you have to do it you'll love it!
never want to leave the islands! But clare and I r making gour way down to malaysia now! In ko lants now though, nice and chilled here!
talk soon! Hope you saving hard!!
jo x
... not convinced in whether she says she couldn't find my email?!
is she messin with me? Am thinking best to not even reply.

[chuff]

thanks for advice man. think tou may be rite bout her using me a bit. just wanted your advice as she emailed,
first time in a month(month ago was last time i sent her email asking how she was doing)
any advice as in if to reply or not? i'll copy and paste the email she sent....
hey
cant find ya email from other day but net been expensive here so just a quick one1!
youll love thailand1!! its amazing the islands are sooooooo cool!!!! kotao was my fave and im now a diver!! was wicked you have to do it youll love it!!
never wanna leave the islands!! but clare and i r makin gour way down to malaysia now! in ko lants now tho, nice and chilled here!
talk soon! hope ya saving hard!!!!!
jo x
..........not convinced in wether she says she couldn't find my email??!!
is she messin with me?? am thinking best to not even reply.

Yeah, I've accidentally deleted a few emails myself but I never remember them and the person who's email I've deleted has to email me back because I would never remember someone's email address. I don't believe that excuse myself. I'd let it go and see if she emails you again sometime.