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Anna1988 · Sep 15, 2012, 07:49 AM

Hi, my sons father and I have our child support , and visitations set up through the OAG. We were told that we could make our own visitation arrangements as long as both parties agreed. Otherwise we would have to go by our papers. We agreed on our son staying one full weekend a month with him, but this last visit our son came back acting very unusual. Kicking , screaming, and grabbing on to not lettinge out of his site. I took it up with his pediatrician , she believed it be separation anxiety. So I went to his father and asked if there was any way we could meet up more than once month so it wouldn't be so hard on our son, he said that he could only see him once month. Last month he did not do a visitation so it has be over a month since my son has seen his father. Well his mother asked they could get him this weekend, I simply told her that I don't think it's in his best interest to stay the night because it has been over a month since he's seen them , but that I would be more than happy to meet up so they can visit with him. Now he has threatened to take me to court , even though it is in our papers that he finish 6 supervised visits( wich he refused to come to his last supervised visit ) and a series of other visits before he gets the general over nights. Does he have a foot to stand on? Also I moved to a different county , and I did not realize that my papers state that I had to inform him 60 days prior or 5 days after I moved. Am I in contemptive court? What steps should I take now? I don't know what to do.

JudyKayTee · Sep 15, 2012, 10:22 AM

Originally Posted by Anna1988

Hi, my sons father and I have our child support , and visitations set up through the OAG. We were told that we could make our own visitation arrangements as long as both parties agreed. Otherwise we would have to go by our papers. We agreed on our son staying one full weekend a month with him, but this last visit our son came back acting very unusual. Kicking , screaming, and grabbing on to not lettinge out of his site. I took it up with his pediatrician , she believed it be seperation anxiety. So I went to his father and asked if there was any way we could meet up more than once month so it wouldn't be so hard on our son, he said that he could only see him once month. Last month he did not do a visitation so it has be over a month since my son has seen his father. Well his mother asked they could get him this weekend, I simply told her that I don't think it's in his best interest to stay the night because it has been over a month since he's seen them , but that I would be more than happy to meet up so they can visit with him. Now he has threatened to take me to court , even though it is in our papers that he finish 6 supervised visits( wich he refused to come to his last supervised visit ) and a series of other visits before he gets the general over nights. Does he have a foot to stand on? Also I moved to a different county , and I did not realize that my papers state that I had to inform him 60 days prior or 5 days after I moved. Am I in contemptive court? What steps should I take now? I don't know what to do.

What is the OAG? Yes, if the father didn't complete whatever the Court required he cannot get overnight visits.

It is your responsibility as the child's mother to keep the child safe, and that includes going to Court and PROVING that visits with the father are not in the child's best interest.

I don't know what you mean by contemptive court. Do you mean contempt of Court? Yes, you could be held in contempt IF you were required to give the notice which you stated and you did not. I have posted before about a friend of mind who moved from County to County without giving the required notice - and she lost custody.

Anna1988 · Sep 15, 2012, 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

What is the OAG? Yes, if the father didn't complete whatever the Court required he cannot get overnight visits.

It is your responsibility as the child's mother to keep the child safe, and that includes going to Court and PROVING that visits with the father are not in the child's best interest.

I don't know what you mean by contemptive court. Do you mean contempt of Court? Yes, you could be held in contempt IF you were required to give the notice which you stated and you did not. I have posted before about a friend of mind who moved from County to County without giving the required notice - and she lost custody.

Yes, contempt of court. The OAG I was referring to is the "Office of the Attorney General". I did notify them that I moved , and gave them my new address .I also gave my sons father my new address , it just wasn't in the time frame that the court ordered papers required me to. Thank you for answering my question. Hopefully me moving to further my education will be a good reason ,and it won't go against me.

JudyKayTee · Sep 16, 2012, 05:58 AM

Originally Posted by Anna1988

Yes, contempt of court. The OAG I was referring to is the "Office of the Attorney General". I did notify them that I moved , and gave them my new address .I also gave my sons father my new address , it just wasn't in the time frame that the court ordered papers required me to. Thank you for answering my question. Hopefully me moving to further my education will be a good reason ,and it won't go against me.

In order for it to become a problem the father would have to make it a problem.

And every Court is different!

AK lawyer · Sep 16, 2012, 07:10 AM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

What is the OAG? ...

I'm guessing Ohio Attorney General, Okalahoma Attorney General, Oregon Attorney General, or something like that.

JudyKayTee · Sep 16, 2012, 07:21 AM

Originally Posted by AK lawyer

I'm guessing Ohio Attorney General, Okalahoma Attorney General, Oregon Attorney General, or something like that.

#3, above - "The OAG I was referring to is the "Office of the Attorney General"

Fr_Chuck · Sep 16, 2012, 07:37 AM

This is the issue, you agreed to ignore the order, and were allowing over nights with out all of the other visits, So he well had all of that time.

The reason for those visits was to allow him time to get used to the father. You decided he did not need that. I would say you allowing week long visits will be proof you do not thing he needed all the other.

If he claims this is merely an attack on you and using the child against him, I fully believe the court will accept this.

I don't feel you are on very good grounds on this.

And yes if you want to start getting real picky on court order, he can to. And yes you are in contempt of the court order. You ignored it and he ignored it at first, it is hard not to go back and say it has to be inforced from the beginning.

Also how old is the child? Separation issues, I guess I have to wonder how much pruessure you and him put on the child over these visits, ( not that either would admit it) but I have seem mothers at exchanges, poor little thing, I wlll miss you so bad, and the mother is crying, of course a child is going to have issues with the father after a good by like that. We often got orders where the mother could not be the one to exchange the child when that happened.

So I think you both need to set down and work out visits again, of course the child will miss you, but you call him, and make the change over fun, and support dad having him.

Anna1988 · Sep 16, 2012, 08:01 AM

Office of attorney general in tx. No , no I supported his visits.. I asked if he could see him more.. I want him to have a relationship with him and his family. The women who read our court papers to us at our mediation told us we could work out our own , but if we didn't agree then , we needed to go by our papers. We together set up one night a month then a full weekend a month . Our son is one . He's only spent two full weekends with him. His father said all he did was cry. We thought having him stay the night would get him use to his father , we didn't think 4 hours alone would be enough time to build a relationship. We've done 3 one night visits and 2 full weekend visits . I just want what's best for my son now, and in the future. If his father is going to be a positive influence in his life I would love for him to be there, anyway I have no choice. I just feel it's my responsibility as a mother/parent to protect my child. I never have nore would I keep him from his father, It just seemed like it was hard on him , from what his father said , on how he acted over there . And how he acted when he came home.