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Knoxpwns · Sep 8, 2012, 06:21 AM

So my girlfriend has known this guy for years online. We met online, but we fell in love and I moved in with her over 4 years ago. Things have been happy until recently.

She just got out of school, and picked up playing games with this guy. I am now in school, and don't really have much time to pour into video games, but video games has always been our passtime.

As far as them, I have known the guy for 6 years, but we don't really talk anymore. They met through me, and she now considers him to be one of her close friends, she compares him to a guy in real life she was best friends with before we met. She has always related to guys better, and has more guy friends than girl friends.

So, they used to talk now and then, but as of recent they both got Guild Wars 2. they spend almost all their time on it. She plays 6-12 hours a day, and usually I get table scraps of time, after she gets off for the night or if she needs to go get food.

But their communication is growing stronger. If they aren't playing now they text all the time. Last night my girlfriend and I had a "date night", we went and got something to eat and went to an art show. The entire date was 3 hours. She texted him 5-10 times, mostly in the car, and only didn't text him at the art show because I specifically requested she didn't

She says there is nothing between them, that she loves me so much and wants to be with me, and says she is trying to make me happy because she knows this is making me upset. But nothing changes, and all I get is maybe an hour to his 6-12 hours. And when that 6-12 hours is up, they keep texting during the time I get.

I am losing my mind. I love her so much, but this is driving me to a breaking point. I feel like him and the game is more important than me. I have said I don't want her to quit or stop talking to him, I just want more time with her because between school, work and homework my time is already really limited. But doesn't seem to matter. The game always comes first.

teacherjenn4 · Sep 8, 2012, 07:50 AM

Did gaming always come first in your relationship? Was that the basis of your relationship?

Knoxpwns · Sep 8, 2012, 07:55 AM

We met on a game, it branched to a real relationship, we met IRL, it went amazing, I moved in (this is over the course of about a year) we have been together for over 4 years. It hasn't always come first, but is always how we have spent our time. She feels I'm being over-dramatic, she was in school and I wasn't, and now I'm in school and she isn't. But she spends all her time with him, texts him when they aren't gaming.

She lives with me in one state, this guy lives in another about 10 or 12 hours away. They have exchanged RL phone numbers and text all the time. She says they are just friends. Ive been talking with family and some say by their idea that's just cheating. She's defensive when I bring them up, and says "how many times do I have to say nothing is happening between us". If she starts talking to him on the phone I will most likely leave, but she is giving me nothing but mixed signals.

teacherjenn4 · Sep 8, 2012, 10:25 AM

Originally Posted by Knoxpwns

she lives with me in one state, this guy lives in another about 10 or 12 hours away. they have exchanged RL phone numbers and text all the time. she says they are just friends. Ive been talking with family and some say by their idea thats just cheating. Shes defensive when I bring them up, and says "how many times do I have to say nothing is happening between us". If she starts talking to him on the phone I will most likely leave, but she is giving me nothing but mixed signals.

If gaming is how you got together and how you spent much of your time, then that may be why she has turned to someone who had free time. You need to study, not worry about her. Have you told her how much the texting and time they game together bothers you?

Knoxpwns · Sep 8, 2012, 11:20 AM

Yes, she knows how much it pains me, but she continues on. I have stated I don't want her to quit gaming or stop being friends with him, just cut it back a little. All I get is the table scraps of her free time that couldn't go to him. But none of this matters, she gets defensive and tries to shovel any blame on me.