[valentina91]

What kind of doctor can prescribe medication for increased blood flow to a woman's genitals?

[smoothy]

Why do you need that? Been reading too much stuff on the internet? WHo decided you need more there anyway?

Why don't you ask the doctor that made that diagnosis...

[valentina91]

Well here's the problem. My boyfriend and I usually have amazing sex and he usually can arouse me beyond belief but about for month ago things changed, its like my body stopped working. Mentally I am aroused but the connection is not getting through to my body, I have absolutely no reaction in my genitals. It is nothing he's doing because just thinking about him usually gets me going but I can't even get aroused on my own personal time. Not by foreplay, fantasizing, masturbation, NOTHING! Like I said, mentally I am stimulated but my physical will now follow, sounds like all I need is something to induce arousal or increase blood flow.

[smoothy]

Well here's the problem. My boyfriend and I usually have amazing sex and he usually can arouse me beyond belief but about for month ago things changed, its like my body stopped working. Mentally I am aroused but the connection is not getting through to my body, I have absolutely no reaction in my genitals. It is nothing hes doing because just thinking about him usually gets me going but I can't even get aroused on my own personal time. Not by foreplay, fantasizing, masturbation, NOTHING! Like I said, mentally I am stimulated but my physical will now follow, sounds like all I need is something to induce arousal or increase blood flow.

You need to talk to your Gynecologist... mention these concerns... that area of the body is their sepecialty.

[valentina91]

You need to talk to your Gynecologist.....mention these concerns...that area of the body is their sepecialty.

Well I have, and she referred me to a sex therapist and the sex therapist seems to be more interested in what's going on in my mind rather than the issues I am seeing her for.

[Wondergirl]

Why do you think it's a physical problem of blood flow?

[smoothy]

Well I have, and she referred me to a sex therapist and the sex therapist seems to be more interested in whats going on in my mind rather than the issues I am seeing her for.

Well, then the Gynecologist has ruled out a physical problem, then what remains is a mental one. No I don't mean you are nuts or anything, far from it, what that means is what drives a woman in this area is far more mental in nature than physical... unlike guys... where its almost the opposite.

WHat has changed? SOmething get repetative... do one thing exactly the same over and over? Have you tried changing things up to avoid repitition?

[valentina91]

Well, then the Gynecologist has ruled out a physical problem, then what remains is a mental one. No I don't mean you are nuts or anything, far from it, what that means is what drives a woman in this area is far more mental in nature than physical.....unlike guys....where its almost the opposite.

WHat has changed? SOmething get repetative....do one thing exactly the same over and over? Have you tried changing things up to avoid repitition?

Relationship wise, ever thing is wonderful. Sexually he is always working a different angle and he always keeps is spontaneous, but I refuse to believe my problem is mental. My physical is broken not my mental... my body is not getting aroused yet my mind is. My OBGYN brushed me off on a sex therapist who isn't focused on the same problem I am.

[CravenMorhead]

Relationship wise, ever thing is wonderful. Sexually he is always working a different angle and he always keeps is spontaneous, but I refuse to believe my problem is mental. My physical is broken not my mental...my body is not getting aroused yet my mind is. My OBGYN brushed me off on a sex therapist who isn't focused on the same problem I am.

Get a second opinion?

If you get brushed off continue to look until you find someone who has, in your opinion, adequately addressed your concerns.

[valentina91]

Get a second opinion?

If you get brushed off continue to look until you find someone who has, in your opinion, adequately addressed your concerns.

I am seeking opinions from many different doctors.

[Cat1864]

This may sound strange, do you do a lot of bicycle riding? The reason I ask is few weeks ago I was reading about some women who do a lot bicycle riding having issues with a loss of sensation in their genitalia.

This is the first article I have found on the study: Sexual health study IDs best female bike-riding position . I can't say how accurate the information is or if other activities might cause the same issue, but it might be something to bring up with your doctor?

[joypulv]

I'd go to an endocrinologist. I suppose the right combination of hormones might have just stopped. Testosterone is the single hormone associated with sexual arousal, but it's pretty clear that it isn't that simple in women. Many studies have been done on girls and women, but results vary, because there are the factors of menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. We women have a whole cataclysm of hormonal changes once a month when we are of menstruating age.

I remember years ago having a 'window' of a few days before my periods when I felt more sexual. Now that I am 65... blah.

I found this in the Journal of Endocrinology:
Increasing levels of testosterone occur in the development of girls as they approach and go through puberty. However, the changes are much less substantial than in the male. Testosterone starts at a lower level in the infant girl, and effectively doubles through pubertal maturation, compared with an 18-fold increase in testosterone for boys.

[backpack2389]

Have you tried any nonprescription products? For example, KY Intense contains niacin and propylene glycol, both of which increase blood flow to an area when applied topically.

Also, maybe be a little more open to the counsel of your sex therapist. Sex is her area of expertise. If your initial doctor checked you out, said you were okay physically, and then referred you to your therapist who is having you focus on the psychological, perhaps they're both seeing something you're not.