[rabel malik]

I am 32 from Pakistan born and brought up in Dubai. It’s been almost 6 years for my arrange marriage and have 3 kids. But not happy with my husband. I am living with him just for my kids and my family. He says he love me from my childhood but I am not interested even having sex with him but I have to do not with my heart.

Many times we fought but always I have to fail. He takes no tension for kids or for their future. My son next month is to be 5 years but not gone to school yet. He just not wants to do job that he will become slave. He want everyone under him only wants to do is own business. Many times he tried but usually he fails to do just because of his drinking which is the main reason we fight. And I am far from him as it is even forbidden in Islam if any of my family members comes to my home he knows he will drink and come to give pain to me. And them when I ask the last words he says I love you.

Many times I had to borrow money from people around me to give milk to my little ones. He comes home empty handed with no money. I am tired. I could not do so I fight from where I will bring milk for them. They will not sleep until I give them. Usually my family helps me even he makes issue why you take help from them?

Now he has send to my country to stay with his parents that he will not have family pressure on him. They will do everything for me but they are more verse then him. It’s been 5 months I am half mental crying for my family and the place I have come from. My family knows I am not happy but they say only one thing just look at your kids the day they will grow you will forget all your pain. Are patient and you will get all the happiness? But what about me? I have even left my friends for him that he cannot see anyone happy. He is jealous only one thing I love you and cannot live without you.

[talaniman]

I think you need a divorce, a babysitter, and a job. This marriage ain't working.