[hardchoice]

Hello! I am going to be 26 years old in 4 days. I've been dating a girl for not to long, 8 months now, but I am pretty sure she is the chosen one. The problem is: on my birthday I have to go with my parents and some family friends who come from abroad outside the city for 2 days. I feel like my mom doesn't want me to invite my girlfriend as well. She is that kind of mom, over - protective, who just can't realize that her son has grown up and she feels like she would loose me forever if I were to get married. I mean, as long as I tell her that nothing is serious, everything is all right.

So I decided to tell my girlfriend, in order not to make her feel bad, that I need to go with my parents. Obviously she realized what happens and I told her the truth. Therefore, she decided it is the best we break up.

My question is, what shall I do right now? Because I love her a lot but then again I love my parents a lot. Her reasoning was that she cannot have a relationship with someone who doesn't include her in his plans. It is the second time when it happens. The first time, her sister's wedding was from Thursday-Saturday ( this is how it is in my country ), 4 months before I told her I would come but 2 months later my aunt invited me to Sweden and I came back on Friday and went to the wedding, which was outside the city. Of course she was very pissed, I promised her it will never happen again but now this situation occurred.

What shall I do? I don't want to tell my mom that I want her to come as she has problems with the blood pressure. And I I really need this girl in my life. I would even move with her without my parents' will. Right now we are not together anymore, although she also loves me a lot. How should I make it right? I tried to tell her that I want to move together but she said that always, during the important moments, I have an "obligation" where I have to be. And she is right. But then again it is not my fault.

[talaniman]

Whose fault is it you are afraid to take a stand against your over protective mother? Who is the one making promises he can't keep?

Are you 26, or 12? You know what you need to do, unless you don't mind losing the "one"!

[Muffin123]

Stop being a mommas boy.. -_-
At the end of the day, you're not going to be walking down the aisle with your mother or raising a family with you mother. -_-
You are a grown man and need to stand up for yourself and your girl it just makes you look like you can't do anything without mommy's approval.

You better do something before you lose her.