[bani62]

I have been married to a guy for 27 years and he is constanlty nagging me about every small thing in our life.. be it housework, be it kids, be it family, be it servants. He is a very intelligent guy but complains about everything that I do and blames me for every wrong in his life. He has a bad temper and gets into roadrage... he will blame me for that because apparently I had spoilt
His mood . I am fed up of being cornered all the time, but what should I do? We have a lo of verbal fights.

[smoothy]

That's a decision only you can make.

Its usually the women that do the nagging, and accounts for why men live for a shorter time than women. A lot of wives make them want to die sooner... (that was a joke if it wasn't clear).

Only you can decide when enough is enough, and that you have exhausted all hope of making them see what they are doing.

[Magpie95]

Has he always been this way? If not, have you talked to him about his unhappiness and what might have changed?

Outside of that, you have to decide if 1.) there is a reasonable solution or 2.) if the status quo is a deal breaker for you.

[Wondergirl]

Don't say anything in response to his nagging. Or if you do, make it positive, not negative. It takes two to fight.

HE: The towels are not soft enough.
YOU: I am going to make samosas. Do you want mango chutney or a spicy chutney?
HE: Did you hear me? The towels are too rough.
YOU: I'm thinking of making them with sweet potatoes and peas this time. What do you think?

If you change, he also will change in reaction to you.

[ANGIE4124]

Since I arrived here a bit late to answer your question, I thought of sharing with you instead, and believe me you're not alone in this retched feeling. Wondergirls advice has even given me a new tact in dealing with my own situation.

Here I jest and identify with you in humour. You should be so lucky he is at least is a very intelligent man… This makes me think you are at least capable of reasoning with him in a mature manner. My fella is as thick as fog, sharp as a bowling ball and complains to no end in sight over the slightest thing – petty by nature and is totally incapable of being reasoned with! Ever tried reasoning with a 10 year old, a drunk or a ding a ling about their bad temper behaviour? Now that's scary! The misery they peddle is so draining and negative, that if you were to take a photo of them on film, it would not turn out! Life only exists for them if there is something to complain about or someone too blame. They are toxic people, wired too poison your sensitive living soul!

It’s a shame to stick around and see your life decay by this constant chipping. As soon enough it will have consequences on your health etc.

Take care, bani62