[mayra1012]

I am 27 and my fiancé of six months kicked me out of.his place. It's been almost two months and it hurts a lot I just started school and a couple other things . I have a four year old son that lived with us who had some hyper issues. My ex was 22 and I.couldn't always go out clubbing and drinking like he wanted me to. He is in the airforce and I went through a deployment with him it was hell. I waited four months for.him.and.when he came back broke up with me. I.was.devastated but he came back within a month and a half asking for.forgiveness and he asked me to marry him again. I thought everything was good I even changed who I wad and even.began to drink and go out with him. We decided to move in together and get married so we were so happy. I left my job that I loved I left behind angry parents and everything I.had. A month and a half into it he said he wasn't feeling us anymore and kicked me out basically. I thought we were okay but we weren't. I asked I'm one last time if he loved me face to fac and he said he did but didn't mean to hurt me. When I left I.texted me he said I was an amazing girl everyone knows but it was the right decision that he was having a hard time too buy he felt it was right. I don't know what it meant . I feel so sad I cry a lot I don't want to accept it but don't know how to let it go. I haven't contacted him at all but wish I know what to do... Help

[teacherjenn4]

He's 22. You have a 4 year old child. He obviously isn't ready to settle down. You should be focused on raising your son rather than changing yourself to become someone you are not. Never change for anyone. Be yourself and raise your child.

[Magpie95]

Do not contact him again. No matter how you feel. I know it is hard but it will pass. After a break up its better to focus on yourself.. and in this case, your son. Decide what kind of life you would truly like to have for the two of you. If you are honest, you won't be able to imagine that life with the man your ex is. Start building it yourself. You will feel better about yourself and good things will come your way.

[mayra1012]

Thank you guys I am trying really hard to focus I don't know whether I want him back or just miss being with someone but I know I need to focus on me and him guess I shouldn't of believed him when he said he was ready no one is. He is young I am at a point where I know what I want . I won't contact I doubt he will contact me but it's okay