[buggiesmom]

My ex and I were never married, as soon as I found out I was pregnant we split. I have a 3 year old daughter, whom I had early and have taken care of with very little help from him. He requested for a DNA test, which I allowed. But it was one of those do it yourself test. Anyway he was in the marines and just recently got out and went into the reserves and works @ the hospital. He said he wanted to be closer to her. We have never went to court on visitations, he is not on the birth certificate and rarely calls and visits. I allow him to visit her now. And he pays me child support, the amount he picked. Although the first year he didn't until I threaten to take him to court. He has been demanding that he has rights as a father, which I know the laws here or have read them. I need help. Should I try to continue allowing the visitations or should I just stop them and let him take me to court? I am not ready for her to spend weekends with him being that he hasn't seen her much in the 3 years,he lives with a male roommate which has two teenage boys and she just seems scared when he is around. She want converse much with him and if I leave the room while he is there, she always comes to where I am. I am engaged and have been with the same man for 3 and a half years now. He has been there through out the pregnancy, she knows him as daddy and calls him daddy. If taken to court, could we request supervised visit? My daughter also has Chronic Lung Disease which she takes inhalers and uses nebulizer for. Which too, the biological parent doesn't know much about or has even asked to give her a treatment. Could this help me any? Last thing, he is not from South Carolina, his family resides in Texas. Is there anyway possible I could keep him from leaving the states if awarded visitation? So many questions and not enough answers as to what to do or how to go about the situation. Just wanted to protect my child, keep things as simple and unstressful as possible. Please help.

[smoothy]

Let me put it this way... if HE wants to see the kid and you give him a lot of trouble... he goes to family court estalishes he is the father via court ordered DNA test.. and he files for partial custody or visitation, mabe even full custody... the court hands down a schedule of when you WILL let him take the child... or you end up in contempt of court... you will have no choice in the matter.


So before you start getting touchy and controlling... know what you will face if you push him too far. He is after all the father and does have rights.