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    Aug 22, 2012, 03:04 AM
    Jealousy
    Please help me.. My boyfriend gets so jelous over my past we have been together a year and living together for 5 months, everything was perfect, then he started to get jelous, I don't ever want to be without him and he says the same, how can we stop this jealousy? Please help!
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    Aug 22, 2012, 03:36 AM
    What in your past is he jealous about?
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    Aug 22, 2012, 05:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bigNavySeal View Post
    What in your past is he jealous about?
    My past sexual relationships. He doesn't like the fact I've been touched.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 05:39 AM
    Tell him it's too bad, it's in the past and was before him. If he can't get over that, then prepare yourself for a lifetime of jealousy.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 06:54 AM
    That's odd. First everything was fine, then suddenly he got jealous? Something must have triggered it, because If he really loves you, he shouldn't care about such untrivial things of the past.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 07:39 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bigNavySeal View Post
    That's odd. First everything was fine, then suddenly he got jealous? Something must have triggered it, because If he really loves you, he shouldnt care about such untrivial things of the past.
    My guess is that she may have just told him or he recently found out?
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    Aug 22, 2012, 08:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bigNavySeal View Post
    That's odd. First everything was fine, then suddenly he got jealous? Something must have triggered it, because If he really loves you, he shouldnt care about such untrivial things of the past
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    He always didn't like my past and got jelous like but never this extreme it's to the extreme where he doesn't talk to me an just ignores me. It's hurtful.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 08:07 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Naomi93 View Post
    He always didn't like my past and got jelous like but never this extreme it's to the extreme where he doesnt talk to me an just ignores me. It's hurtful.
    Then what are you doing with him still? Find a man, not a little boy who whines and complains about the things he cannot change.

    I was that little boy once, when I met my girlfriend she was experienced and I was a virgin. I know exactly how he's feeling and this is no easy emotion to overcome. It took me a long time and a few kicks in the butt by some wise people to get my head on straight. If he doesn't get help he's just going to be poison for the both of you for the rest of your relationship.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 08:19 AM
    You need to leave this clown. He is making his problem your problem and it's not going to get any better, he will make your life miserable.

    There is nothing you can do. He has to want to get help, he has to recognize that the problem is his.
    Or it could be he is using this as an excuse to have you move out and break up.
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    Aug 22, 2012, 10:21 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Naomi93 View Post
    He always didn't like my past and got jelous like but never this extreme it's to the extreme where he doesnt talk to me an just ignores me. It's hurtful.

    The past is not something you change, he's being a child . He needs to accept it like a grown up, or find himself a virgin. If he continues getting annoyed and ignoring you then move on. He shouldn't treat you like that no matter how much intrusive thoughts about your past are bothering him.

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