[Juicy09]

I would really like a sincere answer... even if it's straightforward just please no disrespectful, untactful answers because this is a sincere question I'm having a really tough time right now & just need some opinions no meanness please! I'd really appreciate it

So the guy I've been friends with for 10 years and we dated a couple times and have talked (on a serious note) a couple times but mainly the last years of our friendship has just been that a friendship because we were involved in other relationships & were not cheating... we both had recently broke up about 3-4 months ago with our significant others (we were both the dumpers) and about 2 months ago we started talking on more than just a friendship level he was talking to me every day to every other day, we had some great times together and joked about our future etc.. We never made anything official in our opinion it was too soon and we were recently broken up from others

But nonetheless had been talking all summer long our friendship was NEVER really sexual we'd really only had sex once in the beginning of the summer and haven't since then but that never stopped him from still talking to me all the time also he doesn't believe in having many sexual partners and admitted to me that he doesn't have sex much at all... so last week I found out (not from him) that him and his ex were back talking I was so pissed I went OFF on him even told him I didn't want to be friends no more & during the conversation he was so adamant in telling me they're not getting back together... I want to believe him because he's always been honest with me about their relationship and I have checked their fbs here and there to see if their relationship statuses has changed from single & they haven't... needless to say I felt bad about going off on him w/o really talking about it 1st & I spoke to him the next day & we kind of talked about it but we didn't finish the conversation... I had called him another day and he didn't answer & didn't return my call but did text me a response about 30-hr later so some days went by & we didn't speak I eventually realized I care about our friendship too much to end it w/o at least waiting to see if he's being honest and see if they're going to get back together so I texted him Monday saying I wasn't upset and in spite of what happened I want us to be on good terms... I know he read it because we have imessaging but he hasn't responded and I just don't know what might be happening... I would hope that by me making efforts to talk to him after the blow up he would see I'm NOT trying to end our friendship... and he was responding to everything except what I sent him on Monday... I believe my blow up stemmed from just me knowing that him and I built something over the summer more than just a friendship and to see it go away or get pushed to the side honestly has me in tears right now... but I'd rather save the friendship since we were kids than worry about his ex who he claims he doesn't want to get back with sooo hard & hasn't gotten back with... I know he still loves her I still love my ex and I'm fine with that these are people we dated for a couple years..
I just don't know why he wouldn't respond to my message Monday... he's a pretty straight forward guy if he wants to end our friendship I'd rather he just tell me that... maybe he's punishing me for how I reacted or maybe he just doesn't want to deal with it right now... maybe my blow up showed him another side of me Lord I don't know! I miss him terribly... he's going back to school soon & before all this happened we agreed to keep talking and seeing each other even though we'd be a couple hrs away... how can he just get over me? Or just forget what we had? Or not be thinking of me? I mean I don't know if he has maybe I just need a little light on the situation... I'm so trying to move on and just tell myself once I forget about him that's when he always seems to show back up (which has happened in the past) but this moving on stage is rough I've been crying on and off for days I don't want to lose the friendship more than anything, forget a possible future relationship ughhhhhh OK on a happy note it's my birthday in 30 minutes so... sorry if this is long and thanks for reading

[Fr_Chuck]

You were pissed because he was getting back with his old girlfriend ? Why ? A FRIEND would be happy for him. A person who wants to be his GIRL FRIEND would be pissed.

I think you are not sure what you want, and have to decide, if you want a girlfriend relationship you have to be clear to yourself and then to him that is what you are looking for.

You will never be a good friend, and you will never be happen, if this has moved past that level in your mind.

[Juicy09]

You were pissed because he was getting back with his old girlfriend ? why ? a FRIEND would be happy for him. a person who wants to be his GIRL FRIEND would be pissed.

I think you are not sure what you want, and have to decide, if you want a girlfriend relationship you have to be clear to yourself and then to him that is what you are looking for.

You will never be a good friend, and you will never be happen, if this has moved past that level in your mind.

Yea if this would have happened before the summer I would have been OK, "happy", or really just not bothered because I am his friend but we were building something more than just a friendship & had a verbal understanding at the beginning of the summer that weren't going back to our exes... we've been friends all these years but I know always have liked each other too just never pursued a relationship again because timing and circumstances wasn't right until the summer... the real person I believe who doesn't know what they want is him