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    JessicaCJ22 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 15, 2012, 07:05 AM
    Friends with Benefits gone wrong.
    Okay so I know I'm going to get called a lot for this but me and my cousin have always been close. We are 5th cousins so it doesn't really count, but one day out of nowhere he asked if we could be buddies. And we texted all kinds of stuff back and forth. We decided we were going to have sex. After a few weeks we decided to have sex and he said that we were strictly fwb with no feelings attatched andat that point I was okay with that. After we had sex he starte to act weird and I couldn't understand why. As I found out yesterday he had a girlfriend when we had sex and never told me. And after he broke up with her he got another girlfriend.. And he has been dating her for a week or so now. And in the past week he has texted me 3 times wanting to hook up. I can't say that I don't want to but yesterday he was such an to me, I have feelings for him though.. I need advice on how to get over him! I don't deserve this anymore..
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    Aug 15, 2012, 07:08 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCJ22 View Post
    Okay so I know I'm going to get called a lot for this but me and my cousin have always been close. We are 5th cousins so it doesn't really count, but one day out of nowhere he asked if we could be buddies. And we texted all kinds of stuff back and forth. We decided we were going to have sex. After a few weeks we decided to have sex and he said that we were strictly fwb with no feelings attatched andat that point I was okay with that. After we had sex he starte to act weird and I couldn't understand why. As I found out yesterday he had a girlfriend when we had sex and never told me. And after he broke up with her he got another girlfriend.. And he has been dating her for a week or so now. And in the past week he has texted me 3 times wanting to hook up. I can't say that I don't want to but yesterday he was such an to me, I have feelings for him though.. I need advice on how to get over him! I don't deserve this anymore..

    This is what happens when it's friends with benefits and something changes for one of the parties. If you are strictly FWB don't know why lying or not telling you about his "girlfriend"matters.

    You get over him by not having sex with him and not having contact with him.

    There's no other way.
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    Aug 15, 2012, 07:09 AM
    You simply don't respond to his calls, or texts... you don't spready your legs or lips for him.

    Its really only hard the first week... and it gets easier, after a few months you will be asking yourself how you could have been played for such a fool.

    Consider this a learning experience... and be glad you didn't get an STD or a Baby from this.

    We call this attending the school of hard knocks...

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