[Animal_Chick]

Okay me and my boyfriend have been though a rough patch. At the moment we are on a break but I don't understand how and why he acts like a 3 year old, treats me like a slave, when at first he kind of treated me like I was a princess.

He was such a great guy at first gave me space, he hung out with his mates. When I hang out with mine he played football and I played my rugby. But it all changed once one of his mates started getting in our personal space. His mate pushes me out of the picture, but I never said anything because my mum and dad had arguments all the time and she always ends up in tears and I don't want to get into an argument. I don't want to be my parents. Things were all right 2 months as his mate ****ed off.
4 months into being in the relationship he started talking to this girl he doesn't even know and he paid way more attention to her than me even when we were having the "special time" in the bedroom he text her when we were doing it. I never mentioned it but I though what the ****, every time he did it. But I went skits at him when I found out he read my diary and asked about it and then he made me feel so bad about having a go at him for doing it. I busted in to tears as he made me feel so bad.
But he made it up to me but then whenever I talked to him about things that upset him he made me feel bad and I am there thinking why is he doing this to me. Soon after he started not giving a crap about me he didn't really care when I nearly got hit by a car but he keeps saying that he loves me and he never wants to lose me but I can't seem to believe him when he say them as he shows no emotion what so ever.
Am I being pulled along in a relationship that's going nowhere?

[talaniman]

Depends how old you both are as regardless of age you can always speak up for yourself, and not allow him to treat you bad, or make you feel bad. Avoiding an argument can also leads to being taken for granted as get along to stay together is also givig some one permission to treat you like dirt.

If you love someone more than yourself, that's not good either, but if you cannot speak and make changes, dump him.

How old are you?

[TooHurt1953]

Are you joking? Did you read your letter just now? Of course you are being played as a fool. You did not mention your age. I am guessing you are very young and not experienced in recognizing your poor self esteem screaming out through every aspect of this relationship. Guys this age are after sex. At least ones that text while having sex with you. You mean nothing to him, trust me.

Focus on becoming something. Focus on your future and who you are. Forget needing some guy to validate you. He won't. Guys fall in love with girls who are confident, are on their way in life, and won't give them the time of day if the guy isn't fully committed, monogamous, and genuine. Open your eyes and be suspicious. You have only one life, don't waste one second of it on a jerk.

Never insist yourself on someone. If that someone wants you for more than just a roll in the hay, he will make room in his life for you, and put your relationship first.

Remember, anyone can have sex. That is no indicator of esteem, feelings, or love. Don't be just a piece of meat. Be someone who can be proud of herself, for who she is, what she has accomplished on her own. Get some goals.

[Homegirl 50]

He is treating you like crap because you have allowed him too.
Him texting another woman while making love to you is just cold. He would have been gone after that.
Someone who loves you does not treat you that way. Kick his butt to the curb and never allow yourself to be treated with such disrespect again.

[Animal_Chick]

I'm 16 and so is he I love him but I get what you all mean and I am thinking of ending it unless he grows up and stops treating me like crap and I will start standing up to him and telling him to grow up and if he carry's on he will lose the best thing that has ever happened to him as all his mates say to me... thank you all for helping me and opening my eyes :) I appreciate it so much thank you all

[mmresd]

Read what you wrote... isn't it obvious that he simply doesn't care about you. Any relationship where your efforts into a relationship are not being returned is a bad investment of your time. Break up, go no contact, and move on. Better alone than with someone that treats you badly. Remember that just because he treated you better before (and it was probably an act) you need to live in the present, not the past!

[Homegirl 50]

At your young age you are setting an ugly pattern for your relationships. Stop it. This young punk is treating you like crap and your hanging around to see if it gets better is pathetic and it feeds his young immature ego.
Tell him to "get lost" and go NC. Have nothing else to do with this clown.