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    goutam02 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:18 AM
    Dumped, but has she changed her mind?
    Hello everyone,

    I badly need some advice. My ex dumped me 1&1/2 years back, for being too needy and always wanting to spend time with her. I agree it was my mistake. But, never felt I deserved to get dumped. After break up, sent her an apology letter, but never got any reply. It was hard for me to forget her and move on, but I did. Many times, I used to look back, and miss her. Also, never thought I would hear back from her.

    After 18 months, I get an apology letter from her, saying she was sorry for being insensitive towards my feelings, and she just wanted to apologize. She confessed that she had personal/emotional issues, and was really sorry.
    The part I am confused - is she is just apologizing or missing me. I mean why would she write me a letter after 18 months? Please help!
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:26 AM
    Don't read much into it... it's been a year and a half... if you can't let it go.. you need counseling.

    Maybe they remembered that you asked them once... and felt like giving an answer... it they are smart they moved on with their life... because it didn't work the first time... its not going to work the second time either... people don't change much if at all.

    Basically don't pretend there is more to it than simply the words written on the letter.

    Don't start thinking there was any more to it than that. Some things were simply never meant to be.
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:39 AM
    Maybe she is going through some soul searching and felt the need to apologize, which it appears that is all this is.
    Don't read anymore into it.
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Don't read much into it.......it's been a year and a half...if you can't let it go..you need councelling.

    Maybe they remembered that you asked them once...and felt like giving an answer....it they are smart they moved on with their life.....because it didn't work the first time...its not going to work the second time either...people don't change much if at all.

    Basically don't pretend there is more to it than simply the words written on the letter.

    Don't start thinking there was any more to it than that. Some things were simply never meant to be.
    Thanks. You are correct. Well, I was just in a hope that she is missing me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Maybe she is going through some soul searching and felt the need to apologize, which it appears that is all this is.
    Don't read anymore into it.
    Thanks.
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:52 AM
    Just pitch the letter. You moved on so why even open that door again. It never works the second or third time around. I've tried with several different guys only to get the same results.
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    Aug 13, 2012, 08:55 AM
    She didn't say she missed you so why assume that's what she mean't? Take the apology as vindication it wasn't ALL you that caused the split. I would leave this alone.

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