[anon1996]

Hey guys,

This is my first time doing this and I think I feel that I need this. Please don’t judge guys okay?

My ex and I are both teenagers. She’s 16 and I’m 15. We started talking 5 months ago and for an entire week we were texting. And we did this truth is kind of thing and I told her I kind of liked her after a week and I did, but she didn’t at that time.

We continued talking for a bit but I guess it was awkward. So we stopped for a month. I forgot my feeling about her and I started liking another. After a month of not talking, we started talking again and I told her about my current crush and she said oh you don’t like me anymore. I asked why and she said she liked me back. My feeling came back stronger than ever.

For another month we talked nonstop but not dating. We talked about dating but we realized it was an on and off feeling until finally I ask her if she would go out with me, but we got into a little argument and I thought she was playing with my feelings. The next day her friend called me and put her on the phone and she said yes. We started dating that day.

For a month and a half we dated. We kissed, hugged, what regular teenage relationships do. But we dry humped at her house and slipped into third base and we realized it was too fast for this so we stopped, as I was packing my things to go. She tackles me to the bed and we continued for a while more.

While in my relationship her, my mom gets mad at me because she says I’m a different person now and how she wants me to break up with her. We got into a huge argument but after a few hours I calm her down and I say mom I’m with someone that makes me very happy. Please respect my decisions and I will respect yours. I realize that you’re only looking out for me but please. I’m very happy right now. Now she respects me so much because I stood up for something that made me happy.

The day after I realize that she’s trying to avoid me but I didn’t say anything. The next day she breaks up with me because of her parents forcing her to do so and she says I still like you but not as much.

I was broken and lost because I was so blindsided. I know that we're really young but my past relationships were nothing like this. She made me so happy and I did stupid/funny things for her just to see her smile. I liked her so much.

For the next couple of days I worked out more than usual at my local mall which has good life fitness. On the 5th day I was walking around the mall to look at something and I got a text from her friend asking where I was 5 times.

Turns out she’s at the mall with her best friend and two other guys. I didn’t know what to do so I called 3 of my friends just asking what should I do and stuff. They helped me but I was still lost.

Why would she tackle me to the bed if she didn’t like me as much anymore? I’m so confused. I thought I was doing good on getting over her but now I feel like I’m so hung up on her and it seems like she’s doing fine. I guess that month and a half we were together was nothing. I feel so lonely.

Does she still like me but is in denial. Is she completely over me? I really don’t know.

BTW I completely respect her parent’s decision.

[talaniman]

Like most teen love stories its fun while it lasts but sucks when its over. Young lust is confused with love and when the lust fades its all gone.

Sorry guy, I can feel your confusion, and loneliness, but they both fade when the next experience happens, and it will. So expect this to happen a few more times.

[anon1996]

Like most teen love stories its fun while it lasts but sucks when its over. Young lust is confused with love and when the lust fades its all gone.

Sorry guy, I can feel your confusion, and loneliness, but they both fade when the next experience happens, and it will. So expect this to happen a few more times.

So its just lust that I'm feeling?
And I feel this way because we got into each way too fast?

[talaniman]

You both are full of brand new hormones, without the experience to cope with them... but you will learn. We all do, well most do! They are called "growing pains" for a reason.

Hurts doesn't it?

[anon1996]

You both are full of brand new hormones, without the experience to cope with them..............but you will learn. We all do, well most do! They are called "growing pains" for a reason.

Hurts doesn't it?

Very much aha
But thank you for your answers.. but is it normal that I still very much like her?

[talaniman]

Of course it is. Very normal, and typical. The sting of the feelings will fade as you go about your life and the next adventure/episode/chapter of your life takes up your time and thoughts.

A lesson in letting go and moving to the next event.

[anon1996]

Of course it is. Very normal, and typical. The sting of the feelings will fade as you go about your life and the next adventure/episode/chapter of your life takes up your time and thoughts.

A lesson in letting go and moving to the next event.

Oh I see.. I understand now..
One and more thing.. it seems that she's been avoiding me and not talking to me.. I mean earlier we were skyping and it was my idea.. I thought hey mmaybe I'm moving on now.. she logs off on me and says later..

If she's over me why is she acting this way..

[talaniman]

She put you in the friend zone and has other interests, but she will fill in the gaps of her time with you when you initiate contact, but she will limit that contact. That to is typical behavior of exes, being friendly but unavailable.

We call it false hope when you see friendly and think she means she wants you back.

Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, DISAPPEAR, and do your own thing.

Then you won't get caught up in the head games that come after a break up, and once you accept that the fun with her is over, you can be ready for the next experience. I think that's the best way to cope with old feelings that still haunt you, by making NEW ones.

It may be she is taking time to move on by doing other things with other people, and that's okay too!