[Samanthazepeda]

Here is my situation: I am 17 turning 18 on the 24th and I'm starting college this fall only 3 days after my birthday.
Okay My sister is only a year older than me with a baby, and no future basically. But My dad caters to her like she's this goddess. He's baughten her 6 cars in the past 3 years (pathetic I know) and he's baughten me none. He pays her bills and diapers and all this stuff and me NOTHING.
I graduated on time, I'm starting college and all I have is a hand-me-down car that was my sisters that is leaking anti-freeze and won't even make it an hour into driving. He's making me even go off my moms income so I can get a pell grant for college, she only gets about 100$ a month and that's off her security and she's living with a friend in a mobile home.. my dad has such a ing heart right?.

I'm debating living with my mom because She needs the help, and she gives me the love and attention I need and Honestly deserve. I'd rather be poor and happy, then rich and sad. The thing is I'd have to start in the winter If I lived with her because she lives in price which is about 2 hours away. Should I just up and leave and have her help me figure it out? Or stay I don't know I'm so stuck. If I go up to price I have 500$ saved up (not much) but its enough to go on greyhound or the uta to get up to price. I just can't stay here anymore. I have to bite my tongue everyday so I don't say something I will regret. It'd just be nice to be appreciated for the good I've done but it never gets recognized it hurts. It really does. I just need some feedback, because Nobody I ask around here gives me advice.

[Homegirl 50]

Maybe your dad helps your sister because she needs the help and he knows your will be independent and do fine.
If you think will feel better at your mom's go, but will you be staying at College or going every day? If you will be living at school, you won't be around either of them any way.

[mariesand]

Stay, if you mentally can stick it out. Then go to college and stay on campus. If you can, try to pick a major that will offer good internships and make u $ in the future so you will be financially self reliant. In the summer get an internship and stay there. I'm proud of u. read the bible and pray, allloottt! Family things are funny and strange. Please don't take your stress out with alcohol and men and other things like that. I know its hard. I've been there plenty. You can do it! I used to leave to get away from the stress. I used to go for walks on trails with a friend, week overtime, go the mall, sit at the pier. Your dad is probably babying her so she won't break down from the depression of seeing you go to college and things and probably wants you to join in on cheering her up. I know you want your moment to shine and your achievements noticed. Believe me,he is probably bragging about you when don't even know it and with out letting you or your sister hear it. Deep down I bet he blames himself for her getting pregnant and does allot out of guilt. Let your light shine and be happy! Soon you will be at college and miss them. Oh, if your not going to a university and live a few hr away on campus then change colleges. Those were some of the very best years of my life!! I loved it. What you do is... make a's and get a stipend for your masters degree. A stipend is housing allowance you are paid to earn your masters degree. Oh, and apply for scholarship like crazy. See the bigger picture and don't let today's problems affect the good times down the road that are yet to be had. Enjoy!