[LonelySoulmate]

My husband and I have known each other for over a decade. We have been married for the past two years. Our lives have always been a bit difficult, being long distance for a number of years, in order to pursue follow our career goals, etc.

He began his higher education a year after we were married and has recently told me that he felt he made all the wrong choices in his life. That he has found someone that is his true soulmate – someone whom he as a deep and meaningful and strongest connection with, and that he married the wrong person. He has fallen in love with this woman.

He has told me he doesn't feel this connection with me, that he loves me but doesn't think he's in love with me, or ever was. I am beyond heartbroken, but also confused about how I could be such a bad judgement of character, and not have known my husband was not in love with me for over a decade. I don't know what to do and if I can ever get over knowing he poured his heart out in a love letter to her, announcing he's in love with her, and would leave me in a second if she were also to leave her husband and felt the same way.

We are complete opposites in every way and always have been, but I, along with everyone else always thought that was the charm of our relationship. I compare our relationship to a puzzle - while many married couples' lives are like pieces that just naturally fit together, I always feel that we are always pounding the pieces to fit into place. Is this a sign? Do we truly not belong together? We get along well enough, don't argue or fight too much but if we should be together, why does everything always seem so difficult?

[Ambertcfs]

I think that you should talk it over and if he is sure about this "soulmate" then you should let him go, for his happiness. After all the old saying is if you love him set him free.

[Homegirl 50]

It could be that you two have just been very comfortable with each other all these years and have now grown out of each other.
It could also be that he has met this woman and become infatuated with something different. And she is married as well?
He may find that he is making a big mistake, but if he does not want to work on or preserve his marriage, let him go.

[LonelySoulmate]

We met in our early twenties so yes, we were young.
Perhaps we have outgrown each other, but I think he feels it more than me.
This woman is married as well, and he has made his feelings known to her knowing this, which also makes me question his integrity and commitment to marriage all together. I feel like I don't know this person anymore, or at all...

[Homegirl 50]

The fact that he is messing with a married woman is problematic. It would make me question his integrity.
Let him go. If he finds it was all a mistake, too bad. Any man who would do such a thing is questionable.

[Fr_Chuck]

There is no soul mate, there is fresh mate when he considers wondering, a faithful husband would not have gottten close enough to believe soul mate.

If he will stop seeing her, stop talkng to her and no message and start counseling with you, it may be able to work things out.

If not a good divorce attorney