[rachurach]

I am very confused and I guess this is the first time I am taking help of a site to get peace in my life. I have been in a relationship for the past 6 years with a guy called A. For one year we drifted away because there was no sense of commitment from him and I got into another relationship with another guy B. That didn't work well though I was totally into it but the guy was too insensitive for me. But I tried my best to make it work. But it didn't and I spoilt my health and everything for it. Few months back A came back and said he wanted to marry me. I took some time and decided to go for it. I have always tried to do everything for this person unconditionally but some how I feel I don't get the attention and respect I deserve. This guy is more happy with his guy friends and only comes to me when he is in any kind of need. I feel miserable. Sometimes I feel he loves me and cares for me but most of the times I get this feeling from his actions and words that he is too selfish to be with. I am confused if I should spend the rest of my life with such a person. I don't want to go through another phase of loneliness and depression in my life. Please help.

[IkoIkoComic]

You're going to keep having relationship problems as long as you associate being single with loneliness and depression.

It looks like you're torn between a relationship that you don't want to be in and the scary feeling of being single.

[rachurach]

I am not scared of being single:)... but when I say being lonely and depressed I mean that after having put in my 100% in a relationship I can't think of moving out of it... but at the same time I feel I am not being fair to myself...

[IkoIkoComic]

I don't think the answer you seek will be found amongst this glom of anonymous strangers. The only person who can tell you what you want is *you*, and to a lesser extent, *the government*.

[angelica]

This strangers might not be able to sort out your problem, and you are the only person after all has been said who can hammer in the final nail.
My opinion is that your are getting too comfortable with your relationship, and you will be marrying this guy for all the wrong reasons, probably putting in that 'much' years and you are looking back now and asking yourself if it isn't just better to pick up this guy because at least you know him, the question is with all what you have mentioned I doubt if you were on my side of the computer reading it, if you will tell someone, please marry him
We all know sometimes it doesn't start right in a lot of areas in our life but the least you can do when you start a marriage please base it on love. From your post if I were to meet you, am sure I wouldn't see the glitter, the warmth, the smile, of a bride to be
Put yourself first, sometimes just been single is a blessing, not because it every gal's dream but because sometimes it takes some moments of single hood to get into couplehood. Take your time, on this one,.