[confused5555]

My boyfriend of two years just broke up with me a week ago, of course I'm very sad and hurting, we have a son together. He and I also have one son of our own. His hers ours situation. He has had one girlfriend in high school besides me, he is 28 I'm 23. Well he used to be a huge drinker and did change his ways while being together. Never has he been in relationships just hooked up and talked to girls really. I am in love with him and he is acting lik he is 100% fine and OK. He was working Saturday and his buddies were there (this is his version do idk) they all wre drinking well he got wasted and blacked out he works at a bar. He said hed be home after a bit at 2:34 once the manager could take him, well phone was off and never came home finally he answered in the am, and he was at his moms and said omg I'm so sorry I don't know what happened I'm at my moms I blacked out, well OK that's enough to say screw you but than I gave it to him and yelled because I was mad on the way home from picking him up. We went to get our kids pictures taken and than towards the end and after he was being SO RUDE and mean like he was trying to fight in a way, he ended up leaving calling his mom to pick him up he said he was done and can't do it anymore. He said he's been feeling this way for a while and its not working he's not in it, he can't do it anymore. Blamed me for this and that and said we fought all the time and I never changed, I had trust issues because he used to lie over stupid things and he never really spent time with me because we both worked during the week than he worked at the bar a few nights and every fri sat because we needed the money but still he never attempted to hang out or make time for me or me to feel special or do anything to compliment me or feel good... what do I do? Why do I keep hoping it will work out and we will be OK. I offered coundeling and he said he can't this is how it is... but he's willing to talk to me tonight when I'm off? I don't understand he says he does miss me but this is how it is? I don't understand it, than now he's making sexual comments and says he's jk and I will NOT give into that or do anything sexual that's not me, he really hurt me that's why I want to talk to him and see what's going on but he says he's done and its it so why is he going to talk to me if he's so done, I sound like a desperate idiot but I love him... HELP!! And FAST

[Homegirl 50]

Who knows. Do you think he will even show up?
I know you say you love him but you need to leave him alone.
He had a blackout from drinking, does this happen to him often?

[confused5555]

He already said we are not talking now I don't know it's a mess he used to black out every night before me and drank a lot... than he slowly turned to not drinking he had two duis and that's what really stopped it. I do love him but he's saying he loves me but he had to leave he wasn't happy but I don't know...

[Homegirl 50]

Sounds like he has a drinking problem and knows it. You probably need to be away from him so as you are not a crutch.

[Homegirl 50]

I don't know why you started another thread. These need to be merged.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post3217201

[confused5555]

Sounds like he has a drinking problem and knows it. You probably need to be away from him so as you are not a crutch.

Sorry I am new to this. He did have a huge drinking problem and knows he did, he did however stop. Now he just is so mean and acts like he's OK and than says he does love me but I wouldn't change I complained everyday about something

[Homegirl 50]

I would venture to say the problem is still there. Which could be why he's so mean. This could wear you down fast.
I know it's hard, but let him go. Hopefully he will get help. Besides if a person feels that way and does not want to get counseling, there is little you can do.