[Jenoe89]

I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do!! 2 years ago I found out my husband was cheating with his coworker I was devastated I just didn't know what to do we have two kids so I was confuses should I leave him so I finally decided to give him another chances.. so just 3 weeks ago I found out that he got her pregnant two years ago he really believe it wasn't his because she had a husband too they where always back and fort so my husband didn't believe that was his daughter so she never said anything... but just a couple weeks ago she try putting her husband in child support but he ask for a DNA and it came out negative so there for she knew it was my husband baby they also got a DNA and it turn out that its his daughter... I just don't know what to do he says he loves me he loves his kids and what he did was a big mistake obvious he have to take responsibility so I'm not sure if I can deal with all this he tell me that he going to see her ones a week and that I can go with him... really I don't want to see her just don't want her near my kids I don't want them to know about her but then again I don't want him to go by himself.. I just need help please!! What shoul I do should I leave him? should I keep trying to work it out?

[JudyKayTee]

I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do!!! 2 years ago I found out my husband was cheating with his coworker I was devastated I just didn't know what to do we have two kids so I was confuses should I leave him so I finally decided to give him another chances ..so just 3 weeks ago I found out that he got her pregnant two years ago he really believe it wasn't his because she had a husband too they where always back and fort so my husband didn't believe that was his daughter so she never said anything ...but just a couple weeks ago she try putting her husband in child support but he ask for a DNA and it came out negative so there for she knew it was my husband baby they also got a DNA and it turn out that its his daughter ...I just dont know what to do he says he loves me he loves his kids and what he did was a big mistake obvious he have to take responsibility so I'm not sure if I can deal with all this he tell me that he going to see her ones a week and that I can go with him ...really I don't want to see her just don't want her near my kids I don't want them to know about her but then again I don't want him to go by him self..I just need help please!!! What shoul I do should I leave him ??should I keep trying to work it out??

It's not the baby's fault - but you already know that.

What's in your heart at this point?

You can always go to counseling by yourself and sort things out.

[Jenoe89]

It's not the baby's fault - but you already know that.

What's in your heart at this point?

You can always go to counseling by yourself and sort thingsout.

Well I know it's not the baby's fault but I just can see myself being there with her! I love my husband but most important I love my kids so I don't want them to grow up without him being there all the way.. I mean he is really trying I can see it his willing to do what ever it takes but I'm afraid in the long run its not going to work its always in my head.. I'm only 22 and going through this I really don't know how to deal with this!!

[Jenoe89]

It's not the baby's fault - but you already know that.

What's in your heart at this point?

You can always go to counseling by yourself and sort thingsout.

Well I know it's not the baby's fault but I just can see myself being there with her! I love my husband but most important I love my kids so I don't want them to grow up without him being there all the way.. I mean he is really trying I can see it his willing to do what ever it takes but I'm afraid in the long run its not going to work its always in my head.. I'm only 22 and going through this I really don't know how to deal with this!!

[JudyKayTee]

Well I know it's not the baby's fault but I just can see my self being there with her! I love my husband but most important I love my kids so I don't want them to grow up without him being there all the way..I mean he is really trying I can see it his willing to do what ever it takes but I'm affraid in the long run its not going to work its always in my head ..I'm only 22 and going thru this I really don't know how to deal with this!!!!

If you don't think you can cope, then you need to get closure... and get out. You won't do yourself or your children any favors by staying. Your children will pick up on your "signals," as will your husband's other child.

Is there a possibility you could talk to someone, perhaps a counselor or clergyman, and find some peace, maybe acceptance, maybe the courage to leave?

[Homegirl 50]

I think you should go to counseling to help you deal with your feelings.
This baby is your children's sibling. This is a doable situation.