[Measha]

Sometimes don't understand people behaviour. Firstly he broke off w'out any reason after a relation of 4 years and later he contacted asking if I am happy. Mailed me saying he only loved one person and that's me. Wished me b'day; what does that show? How to get rid of this mental trauma? I just don't want this emotional drama any more. What should I do. He is married and I am still single.

[Mr answers]

Just tell him to stay away of you and keep telling him that you are busy and that you have no time for his bull and try not to think of him

[here2assist]

Tell him he is never welcome to contact you. I did it and that's the only way to break the on and off again cycle. If he ignores your request don't respond to any of his attempts. If he doesn't get the picture just block his number.

[Measha]

I have already asked him nt to contact me. But now he has bcum very casual and said that he just want to wish birthday. Last time I mailed him and asked him not to contact me but then he mailed me on my birthday. I ignored it. But don't know if he stay away after this. Sometimes I bcum pissed off and feel like I shd reply him badly but last tym when I did so I felt bad and then I emailed that I don't want to wish anything bad to him. He said I know you cnt do that. I'm fed up with this chain. I'm confused. Smtyms I feel like god shd give me a chance so that I cn slap him once as he cheated me after 4 years of my true dedication and love. I feel I'm on pity:( what shd I do. I wish I shd do smthg that he shd feel he eeally list smthg which he really does? Else I shd forgive him and forget which is very difficlt but still attainable. Please suggest and give me some ideas or suggest which cn help me get rid of this lose lose situation.

[here2assist]

He's married so only you can stop this emotional rollercoaster. Ignore his attempts to contact you, delete all his messages and block him from getting in touch. It's when you make the valient effort to refuse to let him into your life that you will feel so much better. I went through the same thing except the guy was not married. We'd date, break up, not talk for a couple weeks. We'd resume contact and either it would lead to us getting back together or getting into a huge, ugly emotional fight and send me spiraling back downward. If the former happened the same issues would occur and I'd have to go through the breakup all over again. I finally refused to accept any of his messages and just never responded when he tried. I felt empowered, liberated and free from the rollercoaster. You can do it!

[WisperWill70]

The way to stay away from the emotional roller coaster has nothing to do with what HE's doing or whether he's sending messages... but what YOU are doing...

So it ends with you: you move on with your life, he might not be happy but you sure as heck can be! Decide - right now, today, that that part of your life is over and you can move on.

[Measha]

My destiny is playing games with me I feel. I feel god also punishes people who are true, who are emotional and who are mad in love. It happened with me! He is enjoying his life with his partner. It is me who has suffered, who is in pains, even after loving someone truly why god is treating me badly why? I am trapped in these silly questions.!
My pains did not end here, I got fix up with a person but unfortunately his horoscope din match and he got married. Why god is punishing me for no reason?? Why? For what reason? Why people who cheat innocents are happy in their lives and who doesn't cheat are suffering? Why so? What is this rule of god? Why is he doing it? I haven't done any thing wrong to anyone then why me?
I am fed up with my life, I am fed up with this waiting now. I keep myslf happy somehow but till when? Till when should I wait! I hate him to the core of my heart, and will never forgive him for what he did to me.