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    Jul 30, 2012, 05:54 PM
    My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex as much as I do!
    Hello,
    I am 23 and have been dating this girl since I was 16. (She is 24 now). We dated from when I was16 to 19 broke up and began dating again last year. When we got back together, I fell in love with her again. All the feelings came back and all the problems we had were resolved (primarily because we both grew up). However one problem that has evolved is her lack of sex drive. When we first started dating again the sex was often and great (four times a weekend). Since then it has fallen less often but still great. We are both attractive people and healthy. I love her and she means a lot to me. All aspects of our relationship makes me happy and we are compatible. Except sex. I honestly think she is gorgeous and no other woman has ever been so attractive to me (sounds so cliché I know!) . I always tell her how sexy she is and grab her and kiss her. She loves hand holding and touching which we always are doing. However I use to intitate sex and it worked but now every time I do it ends up in an argument. She says I am not horny and that its suffocating when I talk about it. I have tried to have conversations about it and in the end it makes me resent her (we argue) and I don't feel attractive and when we do have sex I feel like she is just having it with me to have it. It's a ty feeling. She lives 2 hours away but we see each other once a week if not every two weeks so its not like I am begging for sex daily and we live together. I think she resents me for wanting sex so much which sucks because yes I am a horny 24 year old but she makes me insane because she is gorgeous (sounds weird I know) but it is true. I just don't know what to do. How to turn her on, make her want me or is there something wrong.. . To give a little more background when we see each other every weekend we have sex probably once or twice (and she is more apt to have sex with me if she has been drinking). But it is always like pulling teeth and it sucks. I have never had this problem before and don't understand why its with someone I love. She always rarely initiates it. I have tried toys, lingire, etc.. . Does anytone have any suggestions or ideas? Because I don't believe sex is everything but I do always believe it is important in a relationship. And I would hate for that to ruin us.
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    Jul 30, 2012, 07:39 PM
    It could be the relationship is not working for her. She is just not feeling you in the same way.
    If a woman is not feeling you in her heart and mind, sex is not something she wants from you.
    Maybe you two should talk about the status of your relationship.

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