[ILovemealways4]

Well my boyfriend of 12 years is about lose his job. So now he take everything out on me. We just had a argument about something that is foolish, but the way he talk to me is like he talk to my daughter and I don't like it.

I told him I was done, he tells me I need to learn how to take care of myself. I have two jobs 4 kids, well one is my stepdaughter which is his.

I don't know what to do because my stepdaughter and my kids are happy together. What should I do?

[Sophie_3942]

Well because you've got a family together you'll have to think about them as well and how they'll feel about the situation .
Maybe if you speak to your partner about the way he treats you, he may sort himself out.
12 years is a long time yes... but at the end of the day you have to make the choice of what makes you happy. Think things over :) because only you can decide .

[talaniman]

I think its not the what that he does that's important here, but the why. Losing a job is a huge crushing thing and makes you feel helpless, and useless, and I bet you both have a tremendous amount of stress on your shoulders.

You have been through the wars for 12 years, and this is another battle but you both need a proper anger management. For now, don't react to his frustration, understand it, and pick your battles carefully. Regroup, and have a battle plan, make some good adjustments.

When one is loud, the other must be quiet, because nothing good can happen when you both are loud. Is he open to a plan of skill improvement? Or learning a new skill?

Weigh your options and make a plan.

[ILovemealways4]

Thanks:-) guys

[Fr_Chuck]

I think it is time to give him some time, and/or try some counseling. Losing a job esp for some men is like losing your identity, it is now he has failed as a provider. It takes away a lot of a mans self worth for some reason