[venomism]

I and this girl dated for almost 4 months. I got distracted by other things and didn’t give her any attention. She broke up with me eventually and the next day she was in love with someone else. I still tried to be with her but after a few months I gave up and let go. A year later she came back to me but she was still with this guy. We talked for weeks then lost contact, then talk again. After almost being with this guy for a year, he broke up with her. She got drunk and kept on putting pictures of them on Facebook.

In the meantime she still tells me she loves me, but the way I treated her she was afraid of getting back with me. Despite of what she did, I made my move. We were just talking for 2 months and then started seeing each other. After 4 months we started dating again. I really love this girl. She did something stupid. She always went to her friend’s house and get drunk. Her ex-boyfriend is her friends’ brother. I got mad at her and we fought and I just drove away, she didn’t call or text, nothing.

A friend of mine (a girl) comforted me and we ended up kissing. We kind of fell in love. After some time I went to my girl and made up with her. She found out that I played her, but she forgave me though. After a while she started being rude and I could never get through to her. So I broke up with her and chose the easy way out and said I love someone else. Not even a week later I went back to her apologizing to her and asked her for forgiveness. She could not forgive me but still talked to me and at times she said I should leave her alone. When I wanted to see her she told me to stay away or she said come another day. After a while she said she’s done with me. I was so heartbroken but still tried.

I love her have been trying for 2 months now. Last week I went onto Facebook and saw she deleted me and I went to her profile and saw she was in a relationship. I went to her house and she chased me away, she laughed at me and said she has moved on and she is done with me and now I will feel the pain she felt. I really love her I don’t even feel like living anymore. On Monday I called her and she told me they have been dating for a month now, she says she still loves me but can’t forgive me and wants to go on with her life. All I want is to be with her, I really hate my ex moved on but says she still loves me
What should I do? Can I get her back? I’m trying hard but getting nowhere. She just ignores me and goes on with her life with this guy. Tell me the truth... can I get her back?

[talaniman]

I seriously doubt it, and you should do as she has done and move on with your life. I know its tough right now, but if you focus on building a life that you enjoy with family and friends to support you, and activities that makes you happy, you will put this in the past.

In time, things will get better.

[venomism]

I know its true and I don't want this reality, I really love her, I called her earlier today, I kept on till she picked up, I acted happy and just wanted to know how she was doing, she sounded very happy and said she is doing good, she wanted to know why I was so happy, she thought I was drunk, so I just said I don't drink and told her to enjoy the rest of her day, I will now try to leave her alone, will that bring her back to me in some way even if she is with someone?

[talaniman]

I doubt it, sorry!

[venomism]

You say I have no chance of getting back with her?

[talaniman]

She doesn't want you, and she has another, so NO!!