[davisc925]

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and two months, and we dated for about a year before that. We met at school, and while we were dating he lied to me about seeing a few girls, one which was an ex of over four years, but I forgave him for it because I thought he learned. I stopped talking to him after we dated for nine months or so because he finally became honest with me and told me about him wanting to mend the past relationship with his ex over summer. After about a month of talking as just friends, he called me while I was on vacation and said he couldn't do things with his ex because he couldn't stop thinking about me and was in love with me. We saw each other a few times over that summer as boyfriend and girlfriend. He was really loving and kept mentioning marriage. I had trust issues from his previous lies and would check his phone, Facebook, and was suspicious of lies for a few months and then got over everything. I would get mad when he didn't text me back quickly when I knew he wasn't doing anything and if he talked to girls. We fought over stupid things for the remainder of our relationship, mostly because I nagged him and did not give him freedom at all. This last week, we got into a huge fight about me wanting him to get rid of pictures he had of his ex and I took a photo album without him knowing. He asked me a couple days ago if I did anything with it and I told him I took it. Yesterday, he told me that he didn't know how he felt about me anymore, but he loves me very much, he does know that. He also said he didn't want a relationship because he fears that the fighting and lying on both sides of our relationship will not stop and has no faith it will. He said he doesn't want to have to text me or call me anymore or be obligated to me. I know for a fact I cause a lot of the fights in our relationship and I'm not going to anymore. I'm going to be honest with him and trusting and give him the space and freedom he needs and how I should have been when our relationship began. I told him that I think if he has a positive outlook on our relationship and sees that the fighting stops and that I am giving him more space, his feelings towards me and our relationship will get better because he loves me. He said he is going to try strictly for me, not because he actually wants to. Can we save our relationship? I love this man with all I have, and the fights have changed how he acts. I want to save him and us.

[alleyT]

If that guy is saying not because he wants to but for you I don't think he is interested in the relationship anymore, I would say let him go because and the insecurities and trust issues won't go away like that. Maybe you can try sitting him down and talking to him about the things that are bothering you and why you behave the way you do and you guys both share views.

[Homegirl 50]

Sounds to me like he is pretty much done.
You guys have had trust issues throughout the relationship, it is bordering on dysfunction now.
I think it is time to get over each other and move on.