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Shadowangel1223 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:17 PM

I'm 17 and pregnant for my 18 year old fiancé we get married in September and my parents are driving me nuts I need to leave asap so can I ?

J_9 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:20 PM

No. You cannot legally move out until you are 18.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 17, 2012, 02:28 PM

You got pregnant as a minor and you wonder why your parents are upset.

First exactly when did you turn 17, and when did you become pregnant, since if you were having sex at 16, the boyfriend is guilty of a misdemeanor.

Emancipation is for "good cause" only. So your parents can give you emancipation to allow you to move out. But in most cases no. You can not get married without their permission either

JudyKayTee · Jul 17, 2012, 02:30 PM

Originally Posted by Shadowangel1223

I'm 17 and pregnant for my 18 year old fiancé we get married in September and my parents are driving me nuts I need to leave asap so can I ?

Pregnant FOR your fiancé?

Where? In some States you are emancipated by virtue of the pregnancy.

Why are you waiting to until September to get married?

And, yes, it is possible your fiancé has committed legal rape.

EDIT: In Louisiana you are emancipated and can move the day you get married.

Shadowangel1223 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:34 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You got pregnant as a minor and you wonder why your parents are upset.

First exactly when did you turn 17, and when did you become pregnant, since if you were having sex at 16, the boyfriend is guilty of a misdemeanor.

emancipation is for "good cause" only. So your parents can give you emancipation to allow you to move out. But in most cases no. You can not get married without their permission either

I have their permission to get married and I don't live with my parents my moms in jail and I was taken frm my dads home frm abuse I live with my grandparents they have legal custody and my fiancé has already been chafed with that but it was dropped about a month ago I turned 17 July 11 which wasn't to long ago all I need to know is once were married can I legally leave

Fr_Chuck · Jul 17, 2012, 02:36 PM

Surprised they drop the charges, but anyway, sorry parents can not give permission if they are not your legal guardian. Your grandparents has to give permission.

J_9 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:36 PM

You don't live with your parents but your parents are driving you nuts?

Shadowangel1223 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:37 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Surprised they drop the charges, but anyway, sorry parents can not give permission if they are not your legal guardian. Your grandparents has to give permission.

They did give permission

Shadowangel1223 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by J_9

You don't live with your parents but your parents are driving you nuts?

I consider them my parents because I've lived with them since I was 5 do you have any other smart remarks

Fr_Chuck · Jul 17, 2012, 02:40 PM

So you get married and then you can move out, If they will sign for you to be married, that solves that problem, starts a lot of new ones, but you move into your boyfreinds apartment, and he supports you from the job he has

J_9 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by Shadowangel1223

I consider them my parents because I've lived with them since I was 5 do you have any other smart remarks

Look, we can only go by what you post. How were we to know you consider them your parents?

J_9 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:49 PM

Who you are living with (parents or grandparents) is neither here nor there. You cannot move out until you are married.

JudyKayTee · Jul 17, 2012, 02:51 PM

Originally Posted by Shadowangel1223

I consider them my parents because I've lived with them since I was 5 do you have any other smart remarks

You are way out of line - you are posting on a legal board. They are NOT your parents. The legal system doesn't care what you call them - it's what they are that counts.

Do them a favor. Get married and move your 17-year old pregnant self out of their house.

Another pregnant teen, pregnant FOR her fiancé, who knows everything and can't spell. Have to worry about the child.

J_9 · Jul 17, 2012, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

You are way out of line - you are posting on a legal board. They are NOT your parents. The legal system doesn't care what you call them - it's what they are that counts.

Do them a favor. Get married and move your 17-year old pregnant self out of their house.

Out of greenies... So here's a virtual Greenie!!!

Fr_Chuck · Jul 17, 2012, 02:59 PM

Originally Posted by Shadowangel1223

I consider them my parents because I've lived with them since I was 5 do you have any other smart remarks

I see why you are having trouble with them, I have known you for about 5 min and I already don't like you. You don't tell us what is happening completely, you say parents, so we believe parents but you lied and it was grandparents, and you get mad because of us believing what you say.

We are here to help people who really want help, and will work with us to find the real issue. If you did not want help why did you come here. If you wanted help why not give us all the facts.

JudyKayTee · Jul 17, 2012, 03:26 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

I see why you are having trouble with them, I have known you for about 5 min and I already don't like you. You don't tell us what is happening completely, you say parents, so we believe parents but you lied and it was grandparents, and you get mad because of us believing what you say.

We are here to help people who really want help, and will work with us to find the real issue. If you did not want help why did you come here. If you wanted help why not give us all the facts.

On the FLOOR! Right to the point!

The sad thing is that I (literally) see this all the time when I'm working. One parent in jail, the other abusive. Grandparents raising grandchild, Grandparents apparently didn't do an exceptional job of raising THEIR child (whether their child is the mother or father), Grandparents might be too old to contend with children who turn into teenagers, grandchild has attitude, suddenly grandchild is pregnant, someone has to decide if there's a benefit to putting "fiance" in jail for legal rape, the system decides "no," the mother can't spell or punctuate and will spend her life (if she's fortunate) working a minimum wage job, grandchild knows everything there is to know - and the (great grand) child is caught in the same web the grandchild was caught in.

I continue to be horrified when the same parents who raised the now adult mother (in jail) or father (guilty of abuse) are given custody of the grandchild! They couldn't get it right the first time. When did raising a child turn into second chances and second guesses.

Honestly - this thread makes me sick.

AK lawyer · Jul 17, 2012, 04:24 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

... I continue to be horrified when the same parents who raised the now adult mother (in jail) or father (guilty of abuse) are given custody of the grandchild! They couldn't get it right the first time. When did raising a child turn into second chances and second guesses.

Honestly - this thread makes me sick.

As the step-parent of an adult who decided to commit a felony and is now in prison, I take exception to those remarks. My wife did a good job of raising him, but adult children do have free will. And therefore parents are not necessarily accountable for the wrong choices their adult children make.

Would you insist that OP be placed in the custody of foster care instead?

JudyKayTee · Jul 17, 2012, 05:10 PM

Originally Posted by AK lawyer

As the step-parent of an adult who decided to commit a felony and is now in prison, I take exception to those remarks. My wife did a good job of raising him, but adult children do have free will. And therefore parents are not necessarily accountable for the wrong choices their adult children make.

Would you insist that OP be placed in the custody of foster care instead?

Sorry it hits you personally - doesn't change my mind, but sorry if you are offended. There are exceptions to every "rule."

If your stepson's daughter got on line and posted what OP has posted I would question the situation. The Grandparents raised both a problem child AND a problem grandchild. That's 2 out of 2.

Insist is a strong word - recommend, suggest, that's up to the social agency that placed the OP.

And foster care might have been a better choice, yes.

I am reading posts by this "just turned 17 year old" and she can barely formulate a sentence. She's ready to be turned loose on the world and I doubt she can make a living. Again, did she have a fair shot? I don't know but SOMEBODY dropped the ball here.

And, again, sorry if you were/are offended. That was not my intention but, yes, I do not "necessarily" hold parents blameless for the actions of their adult children.

JudyKayTee · Jul 18, 2012, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by AK lawyer

As the step-parent of an adult ... who decided to commit a felony and is now in prison, I take

I was concerned that I upset you and so I've decided to share my family's story and why I feel the way I do.

My aunt married at 17, had her first child at 18. She and my uncle are still married. Their daughter, my cousin, got pregnant young - 14, in fact. She was always a very wild child. My aunt and uncle could never see it. Anyway, she has the baby. (Three years later, at 18, she had a second child, but I digress.) She, of course, can't raise the child as a 15-year old so my aunt and uncle raise the baby. Guess what? Same rules, same behavior, same story - but she waits until she's 15 to get pregnant, has baby at 16. Aunt and uncle and get custody, again. This child is now 10 and totally obnoxious. Same rules or no rules. I can see the handwriting on the wall.

It has changed the way I feel about kids having kids and grandparents raising them.

I realize this is not the situation you are in.

How many generations can my aunt and uncle NOT raise before someone, somewhere decides this is not a good situation?