[LonelyB]

My ex boyfriend and baby's daddy left me a week ago. We've bn together for 3 yrs off and on! Very complicated relationship! But regardless of the differences I loved them very much and he claimed to love me also. Yes I've had trust issues due to past relationships and it used to get me in trouble with this one... But I was fixing that problem. I've gone through a lot this year losing a lot, my job, car, and having no income so it took a toll on me big time! I feel we didn't have good communication skills and that was part of us fighting all the time. He told me through a text that he has had enough of all the fighting back and forth to not worry about him cz he's not coming home. I tried to tell them no that we are going to work on things and I've seemed helped from a therapist but he doesn't want to hear anything! He ignores my calls and all my texts. I'm pouring out my love to him and he just doesn't care. But I thought he loved me? He hits where it hurts. I don't want to raise our daughter in different households. I don't want to give them the life my other two kids have. I'm not perfect and neither is he but I needed to keep on wit the relationship for our baby. He did things I disliked but still stuck by him. I live them very much, he's da one for me. I still get butterflies when I see them. He'll come home from work and my butterflies will start of how happy I was when he got home. I'm a very affectionate person, something he's not! I fear him playing mom and dad with someone else. I know I should not contact him at all but I can't. I can't eat sleep or function well. I'm all heart broken wanting him back even knowing he has clearly said he's 100% done with me. Wat to do when your heart wants a person that doesn't want u? I can't fight what my heart wants!

[Fr_Chuck]

Sometimes your heart is all messed up and will keep you unhappy your entire life.

I read, and re-read this and don't see why anyone would want back into a relationship where there is no trust, where there is fighting and it is off and on again all the time.

Time to tell your heart that it is wrong and use your brain. And is it better for a child to be raised in a home where parents fight all the time, where is or the other is walking out or have trust issues. Is this teaching a child the right way to have a relationship, or is showing the child that they can not just accept bad behavior and that standing up for what is right is more important than some pain that is soon forgotten.

[LonelyB]

I understand what your saying. But da trust was due to my past relationships. They cheated on me so I thought did one would also. There was never any evidence of him cheating or ever wanting to. He used to tell me all da time to stop worrying about it and stop thinkn he's going to do what da others did. Da fighting wasn't physical fights it was disagreements we had about situations. He never laid a hand on me but yes we argued, what relationship doesn't! I'm not taking all fault to it but I did have a lot I was dealn wit and I didn't know how to handle things. I'm an over thinker and once I think of one thing it will lead to thinking of un necessary things. When I'm good we both were good but going through all da stress of not knowing how to get my life back on track put a dent in da relationship! Dats why I sought help to see a therapist so I can speak my issues wit them and not take it out on people I love.

Thank you for your advise though! Fr_ chuck