[angeorg]

I started my period in 8th grade, I am now 19. I would go months and months in between periods and they would be very light with no cramping. In 2010, I started taking the birth control shot and was on it for 8 months.I was off for a year and a half and still no period. So I got on the birth control pill. I never took it on time and would miss days. I have been off it for a month and a half and I've had two periods this in a month. With cramps that are completely unbearable and the periods are heavier. My boyfriend and I are trying to conceive and I am wondering what I can do to help move the process along faster and also why my periods are worse and am having more than one in a month.

[Mobley119]

It sounds like you need to go to your GYN to see what's going on. Having 2 periods a month So close together is not normal.

On a more personal level, can I ask why you and your boyfriend are choosing to try for children so soon? I had my daughter at 19 (accident on bc), and it's been the most difficult and trying thing I've ever had to do, and I've gone through a lot in my life. I'd seriously give almost anything to have more time being young, because in becoming a mother you have to completely give up your youth. And I would give anything to have some more time with my husband just the 2 of us. We were together for 4 years before we got pregnant, and while it felt like a long time before, now it feels like nothing. There are so many things I wish I could do that I now can't, like travel. Well you can, but traveling with a child was perfectly described in a meme I read the other day... it said "you know you're a mother when going to Target by yourself feels like a vacation, and going on vacation feels like work". Don't get me wrong, I love being a mother and my daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me, but there were a lot of unnecessary sacrifices I had to make purely because of age. And there is such a large timeframe to have them.

Have you and your boyfriend considered selting down together before trying for a baby?

[angeorg]

Yes, we are actually talking about marriage. And we aren't exactly choosing to conceive so soon but were open for it happening, and if it doesn't right now that's okay too. I had to grow up at a very young age. So I had to give up my youth at the age of 13.. I had a very sick and sabled sister at that age and I was the one to raise her. And I live with an infant now (my cousin) and I feel like I'm ready. I want one of my own. I'm in a completely new town. And not really being a teenager. I make dinner, clean the house, work and take online classes. I've been a motherly figure for so long that I just want one of my own (haha)I'm just afraid I may have trouble conceiving. Because before getting on any birth control, I had unprotected sex (with my boyfriend now) and it just worries me. We've been together two years and I can't really explain why I "feel" ready. He's just the one I want kids with. We aren't jumping to anything. Like I said, if it happens, it happens and if not that's okay too.

[Mobley119]

Trust me I understand I had to grow up at 13 too. Ive been chronically ill since I was 11, and at 13 when my dad started traveling for work I had to take care of myself on my own, from cooking meals, regulating my medicine and treatments, and homeschooling myself. However I can tell you it's hard to Actually know what your youth is until it's gone. And also with money now it's so hard having a baby. Are you guys financially stable? Do you have your own place? My husband I were, and did, before our little girl and I can tell you now we are not. Babies are expensive, like really expensive. I would just hate to see someone rush into something like this. Taking care of someone else's child, and taking care of your own is a whole different ball game. Taking care of your own is literally 24 hours aday. Are you ready to dedicate your entire life to someone who needs to be taken care of when you're at your prime? When you should be living for yourself?

Just because you had unprotected sex and didn't get pregnant doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your fertility. It's more like than anything you didn't have sex while you were ovulating. I've had sex a few times unprotected, which was dumb of me, however both times I became pregnant I was using birth control. Before you start trying to conceive you should educate yourself on how it all works. It's a pretty complicated process, it's not just you have sex, sperm instantly hits the egg and your pregnant. You have to be ovulating at the time (which is only a 24-36 hour window), it can take days for sperm to even get to it, then if it does the egg has to travel into your uterus, which takes time... like you usually don't even have implantion, which is when the egg attaches itself to your uterus, right around when you're supposed to have your period or later.