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I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years.

Our sex life has never cooled despite the fact that we're busy with grad schools and interviews and she was only 1 year divorced when we met.
One of many reasons for the continued "spark", I suppose is she is rather "open" and adventurous in her approach to intimacy.

She enjoys talking with me of other women joining us. We've never done it. No immediate plans :-)
(she has tried it before).

Recently, When she was not with me she told me she pleasures herself to the fantasy of watching me and 2 other women
(no one we know... just perhaps a VIP ROOM type of deal).

Then, the last time we were together she said she said she'd like to see another girl give me oral.
It was hot I guess, but I was wondering - would she not be jealous??
I couldn't help thinking: is the writing on the wall here? All this talk of me and s/one else... is this a freudian signal she wants out?

Women (and men) what do you consider normal? I mean it's "just a fantasy" but is there a line or a message...

[JoeCanada76]

Fantasy is just fantasy when it is imagination. As soon as somebody makes that fantasy in reality it is crossing lines that in my eyes should not be crossed. If you allow this to actually happen even if she truly wants it I would think that is a deal killer. Yes, it would ruin the relationship as far as my opinion goes. As far as it remaining fantasy and just talk, I do not see that as a problem because everybody has there own personal fantasys.

Joe

[Ash123]

Yep, I agree. Fantasy is fantasy, but I'd be curious how many women would actally want to see another girl give their man oral. HA!
Hw may fatasize about that?. who knows. Maybe get some women's opinions :-)

[Fr_Chuck]

At my age I have seen all sorts of things in life, and during my dating years knew people of all sorts of taste,

While I can't agree with many on all sorts of levels, ( moral, relgiious, and just pure ability) I will say in this world there are people who do actually want pural relationshiops, it is very possible this lady may also enjoy ladies and by allowing her boyfriend to have the ladies , she can also.
( this is actually more common than many talk about)
And others perfer things from handcuffs to body paints, to even choking, pain and all sorts of things.

And to be honest I would say we all have some fantasy, but most prefer to keep it at that level, others don't they want to live thiers

[valinors_sorrow]

It would serve us all well to never judge our fantasies or dreams but its takes an honest soul to know the difference between those and actual desires or goals. Sounds like you two need to clarify the terms you've been speaking in?

As for what is the "normal" range of female fantasy, My Secret Garden and subsequent books have already documented that when it comes to the erotic imaginiation, just about anything goes. LOL

[irky]

I had the same fantasies about my man, and expressed them to him. He reluctantly admitted that he'd probably enjoy it if it happened. The next week, I called up an old friend and had her spend a couple days with us. During that time the three of us acted out all of our fantasies. I don't look at him any differently than I had before, our relationship isn't ending, nothing's really changed, we both view it as a fun memory and have actually discussed the possibility of it happening again. So I don't really see a problem with your girlfriend's fantasies, but if she wants them to become a reality then you should first sit down with her and discuss rules and boundaries, ensure that this is really what she wants and if after that you don't think it'll cause any problems after the fact then the two of you should go for it. But like I said, make sure it's what she wants, because some women might enjoy the thought or even the talking about it actually happening without wanting it to actually happen. Where as others, like myself are more open to the experience. It was a little awkward for a day or two after, but again like I said, other than that, nothing's really changed.