[Dcowboys1960]

I am 25, with a 8 year old, she is 19. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 months, and I love her to death, so does my son. She was molested multiple times by her fathers friend and him during her childhood. They would fondle her, watch her get undressed, take showers, make sexual comments to her. It also occurred on her 16th, 17th birthday, and a month ago.

We recently found out the she is 8 weeks pregnant. She currently resides in Pa, I'm living in De. She has moved back and forth from De, to Pa multiple times. When she resides in pa she is living with her aunt and uncle who are allowing her father to reside with them, and her. She has not told ANYONE about the recent abuse except for me. I am going on my morals, my upbringing, what I was taught that if some hurts a female in any shape, way, form then do something about it, but she made me promise that I wouldn't do anything.

I broke that promise and told her mom mom. Her mom mom told me that she knew that something had happened to her in the past, but did not believe that my fiance's father would do something like that. Her mom mom than told her aunt and her aunt and her mom mom confronted her about it, she told them that I was lying and that I was just trying to start drama. My fiancé was upset with me about that. Then she moved back to Pa for a week.

A few days after we confirmed that she was pregnant, in argument between her cousin and her, she stated that she was sorry for what she was doing, she was being stupid, and that she realizes that she shouldn't be away from me and my son. Also her mom mom sat down and told her that one of us will need to make a sacrifice and unfortunately it can't be me because I have a son, and that if one of us didn't, we wouldn't be together much longer.

She than decided to put her self in a program/house that assists her with getting her on her feet. After a week and a half, we went down to Pa to visit her uncle who was diagnosed with cancer and was given only 7 months to live. She then stated that she wanted to move back to Pa, so that's were we stand today.

She doesn't want to live in De, because she doesn't feel comfortable. But she wants to be together as a family. I want to help her with getting over her past, hate that it hurts her, and I don't want her to be in pain anymore. What can I Do?

[Wondergirl]

As a site editor, I lightly tweaked your post to make it more understandable. If I somehow goofed in phasing/changing anything, please tell me.

Whose baby is she expecting?

She was abused just recently? So this is current and continuing abuse? And she lives with an abuser?

[Dcowboys1960]

The baby she is expecting is mine, this is continuing abuse. She is claiming that she was lying about being abused recently. I believe its because I was using that as leverage over her so she wouldn't move back to pa. She lives with her aunt and uncle who allow her father to live at the house they reside at. I wasn't trying to use it as leverage, I was trying to express to her that I only want her safe, and secure.

[Wondergirl]

How do you know that baby is yours? Has there been sexual penetration by these relatives?

There is nothing you can do excerpt to lead her into counseling with a therapist who deals with sexual abuse victims. The continuing abuse worries me.

[Dcowboys1960]

She conceived about May 22, she was living with me the entire month. I was her first and only partner, and its hard. No,there isn't any rape or penetration. Its her father that abuses her now, his friends aren't involved.