[daniigurl]

I am 19 years old, and my partner and I are expecting our first in October. Our son was not expected and we both are unable to for financial reasons move in to an apartment at this time. I would like to have my partner stay the night the first 2-3 days after our son comes home from the hospital to help me and bond with him as much as possible before he has to go back to work. We live about 30 minutes away from each other and his car is not very good on gas so it isn't really practical for him to drive down daily. I usually just go and stay with him, however, since this is my first labor and delivery experience I want to recover in my comfort zone. My issue is, my father is completely against having him stay the night, we are not a religious family, he is just a very overly protective father. My question is thusly, what are some ways I can help him to be more comfortable with my partner staying over those first few days, and what are some ways I can go about presenting the idea to him in the best manor possible? I know this is not his burdon or responsibility, however, this is my first child and I'm not sure what to do and don't have very much help and really want my partner to be there to help and support me.

[joypulv]

I suppose that if a young adult chooses to live with a parent, that young adult has to abide by the rules of the house. You can't have a boyfriend, a baby, and all the responsibilities of adulthood while also expecting the comfort zone of home and bringing all your new adult life in with you.
That being said, my suggestion would be to tell dad that
a) your boyfriend has to be back to work on X day, so there's no chance of overstaying his welcome
b) he will sleep on the couch
c) you won't be the least bit interested in sex at that time
d) it will be nice to have someone, anyone, who is willing to help in the middle of the night

If he says no again, then go stay out of your comfort zone I guess.

[talaniman]

Is your mom available? We can't always get others, especially dads to give us what we want, so maybe a few bucks for gas is what it may come down to.

[ScottGem]

Let me see, you are 19 and your "partner"had sex with you behind your parent's back (I assume they weren't aware you were sexually active) and got you pregnant before you were ready. And you think your father is "overly protective"?

Sorry, if your boyfriend wants to spend the night, get married.

[Fr_Chuck]

So you are having a baby, can't afford the baby, and to live together ( where does he live , with his parents also]]]



You still live at home and have to obey your parents. If you can not live with him, and he can not afford to pay, how will he pay child support, also