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ccc313 · Jun 28, 2012, 10:29 PM

I have been dating this guy on and off for almost 2 years now. We were good friends before we dated and we are both talented athletes so we felt like we had a pretty solid bond. We have broken up twice (each time for a couple of months.) I ended up dating other guys while we had been broken up while he did not. Both times I went back to him because he had completely shut me out of his life. It drove me insane and we would end up back together. For the first couple of months it is great. He seems to be interested in what I have to say as well as I care about what he has to say. We end up hanging out all of the time. Then we start arguing over nothing. It never gets too bad we just have a lot of misunderstandings and both of us are too stubborn and we both end up angry. In the end I always end up apologizing, even if it is not my fault. I find myself now wanting nothing to do with him and I think he is starting to catch on. He has been asking me to hang out every day for a while now and it just makes me not want to be with him anymore. Whenever we do hangout we always end up having sex even though I have repeatedly told him I do not want to. This sounds very shallow but I feel like I only really want to be with him when he is in his athletic season. Summer time I have no desire to be with him. I feel like if I break up with him one more time then he will completely cut me out of his life forever. I just can't imagine seeing him with another girl. But more importantly losing him as a friend, and not being able to see his family. HELP ME IM CONFUSED.

Sincerely,
Am I even in love anymore?

ali18ninja · Jun 29, 2012, 12:46 AM

I think you have a love for him but you aren't in love anymore. It's more of a lustful love. You're right about your situation sounding shallow but as human beings, we naturally look to be happy and pleasured all the time. If he isn't doing it for you then you need to break up for good, get over the fact that he's going to have a life without you, and move on and start you own life. You can fall in love again with another guy. Relationships are meant to be pleasant for both people. Do the right thing and do what makes you happy above all else.

Homegirl 50 · Jun 29, 2012, 07:09 AM

That s a bit selfish and childish. You don't want him but you don't want anyone else to have him.
You two break up so much because you are just not a solid match for each other.
Let the guy go and you stay gone. Stop this back and forth.