[ohpistachioo]

A few years ago I had my first BIG love, it ended with him just ignoring me, text, calls, anything. It hurt more then anything, it felt like I wasn't worth anything after all the I love yous and time together.
Ill admit, it turned me CRAZY! It turn red into something game like, "I will MAKE him answer!" so I called and texted to the point near obsession.
Now I've dated a guy for awhile and every things been perfect up until recently, when we got in our first big fight. We were BOTH ridiculous, and stubborn. To me it made me relies that I diddnt want to loose him and made me fall even harder. After all, one big fight over all that time, and we can easily learn the best ways to deal with each other so it doesn't happen again.
For him though, he managed to completely forget everything else except the fight, all the perfect times, where we were BESTfriends, by far the best relationship I could imagine in every way possible.
At the start of the relationship I warned him about how much ignoring me hurt me and he promised to never treat me like that, but now (someone who's never lied to me and has always had great respect for me) is doing exactly that; ignoring me!
As a phycology major I understand people decently well, so I thought, I get that feeling this way is horrifying! I'm scared too! But I managed to man up! I get he's looking for an excuse to run away, I get that ignoring me is dehumanizing me so that its easier for him to treat someone this way. I know he's ignoring me because he loves me, and if he saw or hears me hell give in,but I don't get is why!
I have told him I'm scared to, the few problems we have are VERY fixable! I feel like I'm repeating my biggest heartbreak over, and I can't do that again!
I know its not all his fault, I was in the wrong too, but all I want to do is get back to the relationship better then I could dream, which cam so effortlessly, with my best friend and the perfect guy for me.
I feel like something's wrong with me! I'm trying to give him space, but its near impossible! No matter how distracted I am I can't stop thinking about it! I HATE more then anything feeling this helpless, and don't get why he's doing this ,seemingly, just to hurt me.
HELP! I'm desperate and feel I turn the few great guys into horrible monsters!!

[Homegirl 50]

I don't know what happened but I do know that we can think something was wonderful or insignificant but it does not mean the other person feels that way.
All you can do is leave him alone and work on getting yourself together.
You don't turn people into something. They are who they are. And we may see them as one thing but it does not mean that is what they are.
Leave him alone work on you and maybe when he gets over all of this, when he calms down he will see things differently.

[Homegirl 50]

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