[diordoll]

I have had a bad relationship with my mother since I was a kid. I love her very much but she and I don't get along. She judges me for everything I do... even the way I act. She says things like "you remind me of aunt may" and we in the family all know how much she dislikes that woman! She tells me every time she's angry with me that she loves me but she doesn't like me. She reminds me each argument about that. It really hurts my feelings and I just wish I could slap her!

She’s 70 years old now and our relationship hasn't gotten more mellowed as people used to say to me that it might as she ages. We haven't spoken in over a month because she was horrible to me before mother’s day judging me as always and accusing me of being a bad person. I haven't called her or returned any of her call. I won't close the door on her but I won't speak to her unless she calls with an apology. It’ll be a cold day in hell when she does that... but I’m holding out. Don’t have a thing to lose waiting... because I don't plan on speaking to her TILL. Am I wrong?

She's been a mean mother my whole life and I’m tired of her drama and tired of being disrespected (I know we don't get to pick family... but I can't be abused like this anymore... I’m adult now and she has to have boundaries!). What do you think? Thanks, love Dior

[C0bra_M3nace]

Have you ever asked her about it? Sat her down and said, "Hey mom, why we're you so mean and verbally abusive to me all my life?" She may not even have meant any of it, you never know. If she comes clean and says yeah she doesn't like you, then you don't need that, blood is thicker than water, and if water is running through her veins, then so be it.

Talk to her first though, because I know my father was quite mean to me as a kid, I found out that he was only hard because he always wanted me to make something of myself like he never did, his way if trying to get me to do that was through harsh words. Now, my situation wasn't bad enough that I had to sit him down and ask him about it, but yours is, from what I gather.

[mmresd]

It seems like you have kept this bottled up inside for ages... have you ever tried talking to her?

[talaniman]

If you know your mom had a mental illness would you be able to accept and deal with it better. Your poor mom is crazy, just love her in spite of it, and go about your life. I think its unreasonable to expect a parent to change because your feelings are hurt, especially when you can just remove yourself from her presence. Our parents are, what they are. Love 'em while you have them. UNCONDITIONALLY.