[ollyfeatherhead]

Me and my boyfriend were in love from December 2011 to May 2012. And then on June 1st, he broke up with me because he found out I was going to the movies with my guy friend, (which I had never done any romantic interactions with him), and he got jealous. I was a nervous wreck and asked my best friend for help. She comforted me and gave me tremendous support, until she started hanging out with him more than she started hanging out with me.

She's been hanging out with my ex, and his best friend, (who is also my good friend). She stopped talking to me, completely. Then, she started to make plans with the two of them right in front of me, without inviting me. I was surprised, since she's my best friend. But then I reassured myself because I knew that my ex boyfriend, me, and his best friend would always make plans that would fall to dust no matter how hard I tried. But the next day, they talked about how their parents had already talked it over and how they were excited.

My ex's best friend later told me that he suggested inviting me, but she said "No. She's depressing and nerdy. I don't want her to come." I admit, I have been pretty depressing lately, but it's because he broke up with me, right? Am I acting normally when it comes to the situation?

Now, she and my ex hang out alone, a lot. They even shoo my ex's best friend away from them if he tries to hang with them. My other best friend, Isabella, knew about my depression. The day at school after the breakup, I missed half of it because I was feeling sad and embarrassed. Isabella yelled at John in front of the whole class, and it spread around the school that he broke it off with me.
Everyone was talking about it and said things like, "he doesn't deserve you," and cheesy things like that. I appreciate the support, but I hate that it's suddenly their business now.

When my best friend said rude things about me behind my back to my ex, he started ignoring me too. We were really good friends after the breakup, until she said those things. Now they both ignore me. I've tried texting and calling my best friend, saying that I'm sorry for whatever I've done to make her mad, but she doesn't listen. There are now rumors that they are going out, and it hurts me so much. All my girlfriends say that he's an a**, but that doesn't help.

I think I'm still in love with him, a tiny bit. It hurts so much. What do I do?

[Homegirl 50]

Forget about both of them. True best friends don't do that to each other and the guy is certainly not worth it.

[Luvstruck]

It would help to know what grade you're in, but here goes. I would just leave the best friend alone for awhile. Talk to your ex in person or maybe over the phone if in person isn't possible, about the whole deal. Don't act in a way that would give either him or your best friend anything saucy to talk about behind your back. Be honest and sincere and don't get emotional because that will fuel the fire. Talk with him about the things that she told him to make him rude towards you and defend your actions and words. It is important that you stay aware during the whole conversation, which is why you should do this in person. It sounds like both of them are pretty immature so don't get emotional and make sure that he is listening to you and emotionally responding in some way. I'm sorry if I'm seeming somewhat overdone here, but I don't know specifics so I'm just going off my own experiences. Anyway, best of luck to you!

[Luvstruck]

P.S. This probably isn't what you want to hear right now, but you cannot try to get the guy back. Just try to repair the friendship with him and wait things out. You don't want to make your friend jealous.