[Sumy_o]

Salam, I'm in very deep trouble.. My husband had an missunderstanding with my brother and in anger he took allah's kasam and said he will never send me to my mothers home... Later in sometime my brother came and apologised to my husband they both became normal.. But when my brother asked him to send me and my kids to mthers home my husband said he can't permit as he can't break allahs kasam..
Its been 9 months now still he didn't send me... My kids are growing up.. My mother cries daily my father cries daily to see them.. But my husband s not changing... Please tell me is what he's doing is right, is the kasam valid on such thing, what is its kuffara? Please help.
Sumaira osman

[jenniepepsi]

Assalamu Alaikum

Talk to your husband. Let him know he spoke in anger. And it was unintentional.

Ask him to read [al-Maa'idah 5:89]

“Allaah will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation (a deliberate oath) feed ten Masaakeen (poor persons), on a scale of the average of that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn. And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much). Thus Allaah makes clear to you His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) that you may be grateful

[jenniepepsi]

I would go so far as to say that he should speak to his Imam, and see about offering Kaffarah

[jenniepepsi]

Sammi4ever, you are mistaken.

While Allah orders husbands NOT to be harsh, or restrict his wife's movements and visits to her family, he DOES indeed have that right in Islam. It is not encouraged, but it is so.

But that is besides the fact. This question was not about if he has the 'right' to keep her from her family.
Her husband is fearful of retaliation from Allah in regards to his kasam. It is haram to break any kasam that should be honored. This is a real fear, and he has a right to be fearful.

I do not see anywhere that he purposely chooses to keep his wife from her mother. But that the fear of kasam holds him back.


OP again, I urge you to speak to your husband about the words of al-Maa'idah, and urge him to see your Imam about this.

[Sumy_o]

Sammi4ever, you are mistaken.

While Allah orders husbands NOT to be harsh, or restrict his wife's movements and visits to her family, he
DOES indeed have that right in Islam. It is not encouraged, but it is so.

But that is besides the fact. This question was not about if he has the 'right' to keep her from her family.
Her husband is fearful of retaliation
from Allah in regards to his kasam. It is haram to break any kasam that should be honored. this is a real fear, and he has a right to be fearful

I do not see anywhere that he purposely chooses to keep his wife from her mother. But that the fear of kasam holds him back.

OP again, i urge you to speak to your husband about the words of al-Maa’idah, and urge him to see your Imam about this.

Salam... Inshallah ill do that.