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    Jun 7, 2012, 10:13 AM
    Relocating with minor children after years of domestic violence.
    Hi I have been married to a police officer/military veteran for 8 years. We have two toddler age children. I live in NYC. After years of my alcoholic husband terrorizing my children and I, coming home drunk screaming, yelling, cursing me out, slamming doors and breaking things, scaring the kids. Hitting me in front of the kids, spitting in my face, just to name a few, I decided to take the kids and leave. The only problem is is that I don't have ANY friends or family in NY. I called my mother in law to come and pick up me and the kids, which she has done several times, so me and the kids could get away from his abuse. While living with my mother in law for a couple of months, I finally got the nerve to seek outside help(courts/order of protection/ custody) instead of always calling his family for help, after a DV incident in broad day light at the airport. I couldn't dare call the police, because of his MANY threats, which I took very seriously at the time . Looking at my situation now, I wish I had of called the police. After getting the restraining order my kids and intended up homeless, which is something I NEVER expected because his entire family was well aware of his drinking and abuse. I was represented by a legal aid attorney who was mean, rude and very intimidating. He wasn't sensitive to the fact that I has been abused for years and desperately needed someone who was going to fight for me and my kids. I have been completely abandoned by everyone who I considered family. My mom in law and sis in law are all cops too, and apparently they ALL will stick together even If they have done the wrong thing. I have gone on welfare, living in shelters all because I tried to keep my children and myself safe. I have exhausted all resources to try and get legal representation to help me relocate out of state, where my kids and I can live a safe happy life, and have a chance to get back into nursing school. Everyone(courts) expect you to just start over with nothing and no one after years of. Constant abuse. I still am subjected to verbal abuse and intimidation from my husband to this day. Resulting in me having to file a police report because of his harassment. I have to "play" nice with him, making sure I don't do anything to make him upset. This is NO way for kids to live. I am tied to a state so he can have his weekly visits as if he's done nothing wrong. Can anyone direct me or give me some advice! Please. Thank you!
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    Jun 7, 2012, 01:02 PM
    Please post each question once - asked and answered.
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    Jun 8, 2012, 02:03 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Please post each question once - asked and answered.
    I realize only after that I didn't post my question in the correct place, (Family Law). When I actually realized there were many different sections to this website, I moved it to the correct category. I don't know how to delete, my original post from the other section. I realized that my questions were answered. Thank you so much. I answered the other questions that you asked me, if you can take another look, please.
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    Jun 8, 2012, 02:11 PM
    No problem and I'm running over there. That's the problem with posting and not being able to delete. By the time you realize it there are answers on both posts.

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