[Brett31]

So, I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 2 months ago. She fought for me to come back to her, but I refused. Then, a few days later, I changed my mind, but she told me she started to move on because she had already been convincing herself she needed to. We have still hung out plenty of times, and we are seriously madly in love with each other. She has told me countless times that I am her Prince Charming and love of her life, but at this point (we are both 21), she thinks she needs to have her freedom since she has been in different relationships since she was 14 (with probably a years worth of being single scattered in those years).

Well, on Friday she is headed to EDC (a rave) with some new guy she has slept with a couple of times. I have told her that I really don't want her to go, and that I want to be exclusive with her. She is torn, but eventually told me that she owes it to herself to go to the rave which she has been planning on going to. I thought that was the end of it.

She then told my friend (who is also her friend) a couple of hours later that she is still considering selling her ticket to be with me, but that she thinks she is still leaning towards going to the rave. She just told me that she was definitely going because she did not want to get any of my hopes up/ She told him that if she had to settle down with someone, it would 100% be me, but that she doesn't know if she wants to be tied down to anyone/anything at this point in her life.

Now, I have hope again that she may sell her ticket to be with me. If this was just some girl I kind of liked, I'd say go to the rave, and then if you want to be with me afterwards that is fine. This isn't some girl; this is the love of my life and I can't stand the thought of her being with another guy after I just tried to win her back.

My question is: is there anything else I can do here in order to convince her to stay and be with me? Or is it better to just leave it alone and let her work it out in her own head? She always told me she loves surprises, so I was thinking of leaving her a surprise that would let her know how much I care. But, then I also thought that might be pushing it, since she wants the freedom to make all of her own choices.

Please, I need help and fast.

[Fr_Chuck]

Let her decide, you push it too much, you push her away. Wait and see and that tells you what direction to move on. It sounds like there has been other problems though time,

[talaniman]

Then let her make her own choices.