[Gremlin2816]

My ex contacted me after three months of nothing from her, she's in a relationship with a guy and has been since we split, the split wasn't great she hurt me a lot all because I read her Facebook messages it was stupid of me I know and we did try to get over it but she said she couldn't trust me anymore and didn't know why she couldn't move pass it, it was my one mistake in our relationship anyway she ended and moved on very quickly I on the other had have stayed single to give myself time to move on which I've been doing really well at, well out of the blue after 4 months of us splitting she contacts me wishing me a happy birthday saying she was sorry for how she handle things she was in the wrong blah blah as I didn't answer right away she then got abit assy tell me she would f back off if its causing me upset with her messaging me and that she's wanted to speak to me for months but was stubborn, so I replied saying thank you and that yes she was wrong how she handled it and that, next I know she texting me how are dog we had together is getting on and that next year she's going to give me a puppy from our dog to return the gift I told her no thank you as the dog was a valentines gift for her and I don't need that reminder, she then follows with would be nice if slightly weird if you popped round for a drink some time and I replied very strange and no as we have only just started talking again, then she went on to tell me where I was and what I was doing so I joked stalker much and she replied stalkers a harsh word I prefer interested fan and that she has spies every where, didn't know what to say she's an ex she shouldn't be that bothered about me after all she dumped me, then went on to say vile and disgusting things about me on fb while I kept to myself, plus she's happy in love with her new boyfriend, anyway her next message was you never see me do you which I replied why would I look for you the whole messaging which lasted an hour was bizarre she's been keeping tabs on me all this time and why? She then said that she misses me and that we would speak soon that's been a week... Just wonder what other people would make of it?

[C0bra_M3nace]

She's not over you, and has not got over you properly. That's her problem, you on the other hand need to keep up the no contact and move on with your life before she poisons you with more regret and "what if's". Stop replying to her messages and continue on. You were doing so good from the sounds of it don't spoil it now.

Eventually ignoring her, she will get the hint and maybe eventually move on as well, for now keep up what your doing, stay true to no contact, all you can move is forward.

[here2assist]

I'm telling you from personal experience that you'll save yourself a lot of confusion, emotional turmoil and anxiety if you continue your life in "No contact" mode with this individual. You broke up and that means the door has closed. I'm not proud to say this but I reconnected with my ex just like she did 3 months after I broke up with him. I still had feelings and on that particular day was feeling very lonely. This lead to us resuming communication and eventually getting back together. Well guess what... the same issues resurfaced and we broke up again. Now we're both suffering with the agony and pain of a breakup when we could've moved on and met someone else. An ex is an ex for a reason. I take full responsibility for sending that initial text. It was the biggest mistake I've ever made and I guarantee if you two continue on communicating it will turn into a huge $hit storm. Too much bad blood and pain from before. Start fresh with someone new :-)

[LadySam]

The first thing that struck me about your post was how quickly you girlfriend was in another relationship after breaking up with you over an offense that was wrong on your part, but certainly not unforgivable. One mistake and now there is NO trust and I'm out of hear, got to tell you that sounds a little fishy to me. I could be totally wrong. I only point it out on the off chance that you entertain the thought of reuniting..
Good job on not contacting her and staying single to give yourself a chance to mend, that was the right thing to do.
You know you should not accept any communication from her in the future, I think the bottom line is she regrets her decision, she knows he handled it badly, you accepted her B'day call or text and her foot is back in the door and she is going to use that continue to keep in touch, but only if you allow it.
The puppy next year is another attempt to prolong contact with you and you had the right answer.
Hint: any questions about spaying the dog can also be answered here but in another section, just thought I'd let you know that, sorry.
As for poppin round for a drink, what about her boyfriend, is he OK with that?
Doesn't seem to me that she has much respect for that relationship. If I were the boyfriend I would be a little concerned.

Personally these statements bother me.

" she went on to tell me where I was and what I was doing "
"she has spies every where"
"you never see me do ya "

"she's been keeping tabs on me all this time and why?" Indeed why?
1-obsessed
2-stalking
3-a little disturbed
4-not over you
Not meaning to offend at all, but at times when faced with difficult emotions any of us can do something out of character.
So that is my take on your post I would agree with the others, continue the no contact.
Her loss, on to better things right?

[Gremlin2816]

Thank you guys your comments have really helped its been 2 weeks since she messaged me and I haven't messaged or texted her back at all. I'm hoping that's, one of my mates dud say if she messages next time which they think she will to just ask her out right what do you want? But I'm unsure? And like a mate said maybe the reason she hasn't messaged back is maybe she waiting on you too and not forgetting the fact that she's keeping tabs on you anyway so she wouldn't have too.

[somethingsarah]

No that's giving her permission to jeep her foot in the door that is your life. STAY OUT OF CONTACT. Get a girlfriend and forget her. Some girls are not worth it. Just keep your head high and let go. Trust me there is a girl that will love you. Also remember never punish the new girl for your example mistakes. Thus its important yo let go of her first. Don't let the other girl be your excuse to leave let her be your strength and light out of the darkness!