[LoveJazzLove]

I love my boyfriend. Probably more than I love anyone. I'm 18, he's 19. We both graduated high school about two weeks ago. We have been dating since November of 2009. So that's like 2 1/2 years. Roughly. He is my VERY BEST friend. Regardless of what I may tell my girlfriends. We have gone through a lot, especially the last nine months. While considering "senioritis" and the stresses of being a senior in high school.

Well in January, I found something bad in his phone. Won't go into detail of how, who or what. Just know I broke up with him. When I did, he cried like I had died. He literally got down on his knees and begged me. He continued to feed me lies like "I will change" (which I had heard previously) and about two weeks later, I had taken him back.

Fast forward to April. There is this girl he used to date like back in 9th grade.( I will call her Annie. That IS NOT her name by the way.) Annie is a "tree-hugger", I am myself, but she's a bit 'extreme' and has unrealistic views on things. All that to the side... Annie was giving away puppies, and advertised them to the class. Nobody really cared about it. My boyfriend (Whom I will now refer to as John) told his good friend about the deal, simply because he knew that he would be interested.

Annie kept bugging John about his friend and when he would come get the puppies and "ya-Di-ya, blah blah, this,that and the third." Before the whole puppy thing Annie would barely say a word to John.. and vice versa. Annie started talking to John again on a daily basis, which initially didn't bother me. She invited him to this party and he went.

So this happened 3 times over, without me ever being invited. I was convinced that they were either fooling around, or she liked him as a little bit more than a friend. The last time John went to one of the parties he got really drunk. So drunk that he was unable to remember what happened. One night, he told me. He said that he has hurt me so much, and I don't deserve him. Even though his "friends" told him nothing serious happened. He still wanted to break it off. So we did.

Like an idiot, I could not stop texting him and face-booking him telling him how much I loved him etc. I decided I needed to stop. I racked up most of the things he had ever given me, and things that reminded me of him. I put the things in a big hefty bag and wrote a letter to compliment it. The letter basically said "If you think you can really change this time, bring it back to me and we can start over again."

A few days later, I had got my paycheck. I went to the mall alone (which I have rarely done) I passed by the cookie stand in the food court and bought 5 cookies. When I left the mall, I wanted to see him so bad, but was hesitant to go to John's house. I did. When I got there he was sitting in his bed playing COD. He quickly paused it when he saw me walk through the door. I told him I just wanted to give him the cookies and leave. He asked me to sit beside him and he gave me a kiss on the forehead. He hugged me tightly, then stood up and said "You can have your bag back." I don't think I had ever been so happy in my life, especially because of how stand-offish he had been. He took me to lunch and we had fun the rest of the day.

Fast Forward to June. John's best friend and girlfriend broke up like yesterday. They had a long term relationship. But the girlfriend recently decided she needs space. Me and John were going through a petty argument over Facebook messages during the time, until they broke up. He replied to my hateful message with a '' I love you, I never want to lose you... " His friend is literally torn into pieces.. I wonder if he the ought of himself being in his friend's shoes. I don't know.

But Fast forward to like, right now... We are planning a future together. He is going to do Active Duty in the Air Force, while I attend beauty school. We are moving from LA to Houston TX (we both have family members there) We have a plan. We have always talked about a future together and it's finally coming. What do you think will become of us, by hearing most of our story. I know we will make it to the white picket fence. A lot of people doubt us though (our parents).

I need opinions , suggestions to make it last... Idk feel free to criticize.

[C0bra_M3nace]

Not knowing what the "bad thing" in his phone was makes it hard, but if it was bad enough to break up with him, that's something to go by. Did you ever set your feelings aside and really think about what went wrong, and if it'd happen again. I don't know what it was, so it makes it even harder to judge if he would or not, if he cheated, texted past gfs, has nude pics of others girls. All those things can, and probably will happen again. I mean, don't get me wrong, people do change, but it's unlikely.

I would seriously consider rethinking your relationship, usually if they don't work out the first time, what makes you think it will a second. We call that learning from our mistakes, some of us are lucky enough to learn quickly, like 2 and a half years. Some wait 7, 15 even 20 years.