[m_s_1368]

I knew her boy friend before seeing her in party with him. Anyway, she works in a grocery store, My friends and I went out to the same grocery store to get something for BBQ. Meanwhile one of my friends invited her or she text her to join us for BBQing. When she got off work she was going to come and join us but my friend text her that we are going somewhere else.anyways she added me on FB at same night we were chating and she asked me why did you guys ditched me or so?I said that I didn't know that your were going to come to my apartment so I asked her how is your boy friend she said I hope He is fine,So I asked what's wrong. And she started talking about that she was having problems with her ex. She said that he broke up caz he had plan to go to his country forever and now he has gone forever and they broke up 3 weeks ago Yesterday I texted her something funny then she called me the conversation started well. We were talking about a movie we both saw and were laughing and stuff. Oh by the way, yesterday she uploaded some pictures in FB that one of pictures is Her and her ex picture. And the rest photos all her guy friends.
But I don't get why she has to tell me about that. I'm not her best friend or anything, just some guy that wants to date her. Is she still interested in her ex? Does she just want to be friends or does she want something more.
Sorry for taking so long but I thought you should know the whole story.
Please help, I really like this girl and we have so much in common. Thanks

[Domikat1112]

One possible reason is that she's trying to make you jealous. I know I've done something like that before... it's cruel and nasty, but sometimes we like to see the guy we like jealous. Mean, right? Doesn't make you want to date her. I realized that quickly. But girls do that sometimes. Yes, they may even go so far as to post pics of their ex on FB or something like that. Doesn't mean they like their ex anymore. Could just be a tactic to make people jealous. Us girls are cruel like that.

Then again... she may think of you as a close friend for some reason, close enough to talk to you about her problems. Or she could just be the kind who'll rant about her problems to anyone who'll listen. That is definitely a possibility you have to consider.

Let me just tell you that a girl who tries to make you jealous before the relationship even starts is not going to make you happy in the future, unless you talk to her about it.

The best course of action would be to tell her how you feel of course. That way, you'll get an answer. If she likes you, then it was probably the jealousy thing. If she doesn't, then don't worry too much about it. There're plenty of ways to change a girl's mind :) (I should know.)

Good luck! Hope this helps!

[m_s_1368]

What is the point of making me jealous if she doesn't want to have a relationship with me ?
Even though she is not like any other girls who go and talk to every guys about her life style. By the way since the last chat we had there was no more talk about her ex , we made funny conversations /she didn't speak about him anymore. Anyway a day before yesterday I asked her would you come and join us if we have a plan tonight. And she said ask your friends and let me know your plan. I didn't call her till 7 PM, she called me and asked "what happened I was waiting for your call, you guys decided yet? any plans?" and I said that "No plans with my friends but we can go out together if you want " she said No its late and so... "I have work tomorrow, we can go out this weekend"
I have no idea what are these signs to me? Is she interested? She wants me just for rebound or so ? I don't want to go and ask her directly I better know what is her reaction before doing that.
What is your suggestion for the next step?

[JudyKayTee]

It sounds like she wants to get together with you and friends, not with just you.

You are not in a relationship. She's free to post whatever she wants on her FB for whatever reasons she wants to post them.

I'd back off.