[Marleybarbie22]

I'm 16 years old from Iowa. I have been dating this boy for a year and 4 months. We are so comfortable around each other and whenever we would break up, nothing was right without each other, we have always came back together. Yes we have fought a lot and he has cheated a couple times but I still love him. My parents let us spend every waking minute together last year. We even stayed at each others houses over night. We broke up a few months ago and they said that was it , no more. They blocked his number from my phone even. So we talk through my iPod. I'm locked in my house twenty four seven because they know I want to see him an that he wants to see me. I can never leave unless I'm going to work. He lives about 30 minutes from me and my parents still think anytime I'm guna leave I will be seeing him. We are not going to live like this anymore. My mom and I never got along since I was little, and my real dads dead. I don't talk to my step dad. It's not even a family really.
So me and my boyfriend were thinking, what if we got pregnant? We have always wanted a baby and maybe this would mak it so we can be together. What could my parents do then?
Any other suggestions?
Please help me :(

[Wondergirl]

And how are you going to pay the hospital bill of $10,000 or more? What will this baby wear and eat and sleep in? Where will he live?

Aren't the two of you in school? So you'd blow up that too and end up with no high school diploma and minimum wage jobs (if you can find even that good)?

[Marleybarbie22]

This baby will have the most amazing life ever, we have his mom and dad, his sister, my real dads family and friends to support us. I have a job and I'm getting another one, he's getting a job too. Money will not be the main issue . Thanks though

[Marleybarbie22]

We would live with his dad until we are done with school. We will both graduate no matter what

[Wondergirl]

High school diploma? And if your parents keep you locked up now, how do you think they will behave once they find out you are pregnant?

How much does your current job pay?

[Wondergirl]

Did you run this plan past any adults yet?

[Marleybarbie22]

Umm excuse my miss but I did not ask for your rude comments and advice. You can stop commenting now, thank you

[Wondergirl]

Once you post on an open board, anyone can respond. I am not being rude. I am being realistic. If your parents lock you up 24/7, what will they do when they find out you are pregnant? And again, have you run this plan past any adult yet?

[LadySam]

Well then allow me, at 16 you are not emotionally prepared to deal with a crying, colicky infant every night.
Not are you prepared for the financial responsibility that is REQUIRED to raise a child.
Do you realize that you just said we will live with his father.
Already proof positive that you are not prepared.
And I'm not being rude just factual.

[Marleybarbie22]

Once they find out they should prly feel bad because they forced it upon us to make it happen so we can have a life together. And once I'm pregnant, it's not like they can do much more, I would already be pregnant, not much more I could get into.
And no I have not talked to any adults about this, that's the least of my worrys right now

[Wondergirl]

Getting adult approval (since the adults will have to pay the hospital and obstetrician bills plus buy you the basics for the baby) seems like the best way to begin this project.

So this would be a defiance baby?

[Marleybarbie22]

Ummm excuse me ? We will live with his father till we can get on our own two feet, I'm guessing a couple months. His father is also having health issues and we want to help him out as much as we can, so before u go telling me I'm not mature enough, look at the full picture of what we are doing.

[Wondergirl]

I won't even begin to get into what a pregnancy can do to the body of a young teen who isn't physically mature yet. Both you and the baby may end up with disabilities or even terrible illnesses that will ruin your lives.

[Wondergirl]

His father has the money you will need for all the hospital and doctor bills? His father has okayed this plan?

[LadySam]

Well then worry about this, you're in a on again, off again relationship with a guy who has cheated on you and you fight with.
Even if you were 30 it not be a good choice to get pregnant on purpose in the hopes to make it work. Life does not work that way.
And an even worse idea to think of this at your age simply to spite your parents.
You are young, don't waste that on a guy who will likely dump you when the responsibility get to be too much of a burden and leaves you sitting to care for a child by yourself.

[Wondergirl]

Marley, getting pregnant at your age and with an unreliable boyfriend whom your parents are keeping you away from is A Very Bad Idea.