[NicoleLouise]

I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months. At first I fell in love with him, he was such a sweet natured guy. Now, he's become possessive, obsessive, controlling, jealous and bitter when things aren't going his way.

He constantly believes I'll cheat on him, and many of times has accused me of doing so.. although he tried it on with my best friend.. which I gave him a second chance with after much hatred toward him.

We broke up 2 days ago after he said he wanted freedom, and that I and the relationship was holding him back and stopping him from doing what he wanted (although I've always told him to go and do things, and he's always refused!) He said the relationship was an act. I left him and after much regret asked that things be kept to a friendship level and left alone.

He then asked me back, which I regretfully accepted, and I'm now in a position of a lot of confusion. He seems to show another side. Today, I seen him and afterward he went out with his best mate. I on the another hand went out with a guy friend (who I've known for like 15 years!), who took me up the farm to see my horse and to get something to eat. I come home to nothing but ignorance, jealousy, and bitterness because I enjoyed my day..

He's ignoring me, telling me he doesn't want to know or speak to me. It's like any bit of happiness or time I spend away from him, he expects me to be locked up in a room waiting for him. I can't go out with friends, or go anywhere without his permission, otherwise hell breaks lose.

I love him so much however, I'm so confused. He's saying he loves me and wants me one minute, and on the other hand, doesn't even want to speak or know me. I don't know what to do anymore..

Any advice? :/

[C0bra_M3nace]

You don't need advice you need to run, run as far away from that relationship and that guy as you can. There is no relationship without trust, honesty and communication. He seems to be missing a couple of those somewhere. You don't need that, you can find someone much better, who will cherish you, treat you right and let you do the things you want.

Best of luck!

[mmresd]

No trust, no relationship. End this and move on, this guy will not change, at least not while he still has with you and with the ability to actually be possessive and controlling because you let him. An ex is an ex, break up with the guy and go no contact forever, no need for all this stress and for someone like him in your life.

[talaniman]

This experiment has failed twice, so what's the point? Just disappear on the fool.